Non-traditional Bridesmaids

I've never seen this done but I have seen other people on here decide to do this for the same reasons. I say go for it!

I think it’s fine to have your bridal part sit instead of stand at the altar, but I don’t think you should tell them that you expect them to throw you panties.

Wow...

***parties***

LOL! I can skip the parties and the panties! True, I certainly don't expect them to throw me parties. However, if my mother happens to plan a shower, I would hope they would at least attend...

I suppose it’s a good compromise. I don’t see anything wrong with it.

Fabulous. I think they'll like it even better - the thrill is not in standing at the altar, but being involved in your day. Good compromise!

I would be far more worried about FH pushing me around before the marriage.

I think that's a lovely idea. We are doing an intimate ceremony with only us and my children up there, but we do have people we have asked to play these roles for us and they are just wearing coordinating colors so we can do some photo ops with them, etc.

That’s a good idea! And I love the compromise, that’s what marriage is to me...compromising because not everyone gets their way all the time😊

I think this is totally acceptable. I know in many other countries or in some church ceremonies the bridal party sits in the front row during the ceremony.

I’ve actually been in several weddings where as a bridesmaid, we were seated in the front row, but off to the side. It didn’t make me feel any “less” at all- in fact, most of us were happy to be off our feet for the longer ceremonies. Plus, we didn’t have to worry about accidentally making an awkward face and having it caught on camera!

Having your wedding party seated in a place of honor at your ceremony doesn’t take away from them being a part of things.

Its your day, do what you want. I think its great he only wants the two of you up there

So for my friend's church wedding we sat in the first pews for the readings and communion part of the wedding then we went up to the stairs beneath the alter. But you can very much just have them sit in the first row the whole time. It's not a big deal/there's no rule against this!

I'd say that could work...but the other part of my brain says...no bridal party, it sounds like the completely intimate part is really important to your FH and to completely respect his wishes would be to have no bridal part.

However...if he wants this to be intimate...how big of a wedding is he willing to go? Eventually once you have so many people it's not really intimate anymore..at least not in my mind. I'd say 20 or less could be intimate any more guests...it's kind of difficult.

I think it's completely fine, especially if they know about the plan from the beginning. I've been a maid of honor in two catholic weddings and that is how it was done. We all walked down the isle and then the bridal party sat in the front row.

I've been in a wedding where we walked down the aisle and were seated during the ceremony. I actually preferred that as a bridesmaid.

I've personally never seen this done, BUT I have heard of it being done. So I say go for it.

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I agree! Thank you. I feel like it is a good compromise.

View Quoted Comment Agreed. It would rub me the wrong way if my FH requested this...

I was a bridesmaid in one of my best friend’s wedding. It was an Iranian ceremony (she’s Iranian he’s Italian from NJ), so they had a very long ceremony with religion, customs, multiple officiants, etc so the bridal party sat down on both sides because of the length. I appreciated this! I personally dislike standing up there anyway, so I was more than happy to kick my feet up and enjoy. I do think it’s nice to have a picture of the bridal party up there supporting you during the ceremony, but that’s just me.