Rockstar June 2019

Non-pro Bam: The Good, The Bad, The Ugly

Danielle, on July 9, 2019 at 3:37 PM Posted in Married Life 0 67
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I'm backkkk, and I'm MARRIED!!! Let me start off by saying that I am so happy with the way my wedding turned out. For the most part, it was perfect and exactly what I'd hope'd for. As I am waiting for my professional photos, I figured I'd share "The Good, The Bad, and The Ugly" of how everything turned out.

The Good:

Everyone really seemed to enjoy themselves and have fun, which is what I wanted more than anything. All of our guests raved about the food, especially the crab dip. And everyone loved our beer canoe & moon shine. All of my vendors were great, IMO. My husband (HA, I almost typed FH ) had a few minor complaints about the DOC & DJ, but overall, I was very pleased with everyone we hired. Our friends and family helped us set up and clean up, which is awesome, because we couldn't of done it without them. Everyone loved my dress, and thought everything was beautiful and well put together. The grand entrance songs I picked for the reception were a big hit, and apparently our first dance had everyone tearing up. I made my husband swear not to smash cake in my face, and he oh so lovingly didn't..it was quite sweet, but I couldn't resist and grabbed the entire plate that held our cake slice and smashed it on the side of his face as we were lovingly feeding each other, bahahahaha. We stayed up till 1:00 am at the venue, even after most guests and the vendors all left (I had the venue for the entire weekend), with some close friends and family and just laughed and enjoyed each other's company. Anyways, everything was perfect and so special.

The Bad:

Although my cake was beautiful & tasty, I am quite annoyed that it wasn't what I paid for. I literally talked to the baker 2 days before the wedding about how excited she was about the cake, especially the fresh berries. She even asked me to pay an extra $100 because she mistakenly under charged me and costs were adding up. Well, guess what wasn't on our cake the day of the wedding!?! The freaking berries! Ugh, sorry, that one just rubs me the wrong way, lol. Anyways, beyond that there were minor little things that didn't happen according to plan, but no big deal overall. I think the DOC forgot to set the sand ceremony stuff out, but that was fixed by the time I walked down the aisle. The DJ stuttered when announcing us into the reception, lol. I didn't lose the 10 lbs I needed to, and couldn't secure the very top hook on my dress (oh well). My husband didn't quite finish all of the signs I asked for *insert eye roll*. The officiant told the guests there was assigned seating, but there wasn't (oops). Also, I didn't get a chance to say hi and talk to everyone, which I feel guilty about, but everyone was very understanding. And my MOH forgot how to do my bustle, so my dress kept falling apart in the back. BUT...like I said, all very minor things.

The Ugly:

It....was....HOT!!! So hot in fact, that I almost passed out and threw up from getting over heated. My advice to all summer brides is no matter how much you love your dress...please consider an outfit change, just in case. My dress was a big a line with a built in corset and many layers of fabric/poof. Mid reception, I started to feel so sick and couldn't breath. It got to the point where I had to go into the bridal room and have someone rescue me from my dress, while my mother went to my house to get me something to change into. Luckily my house is only 5-10 minutes from the venue. I was determined to wear my very expensive dress all night, but that didn't happen. My husband told me he was mad because he couldn't find me and didn't know why no one came and got him, lol. I told him it was probably because they wanted him to have fun and was concerned about me at the time and didn't think about it. But yeah, I swear I got married on the hottest day of the year, lol. It was still perfect though!

The new Mr. and Mrs. DavisNon-pro Bam: The Good, The Bad, The Ugly 1

Our wedding party...melting during pictures (SO HOT)Non-pro Bam: The Good, The Bad, The Ugly 2

Our First Dance Non-pro Bam: The Good, The Bad, The Ugly 3


  • Peggy
    Master November 2019
    Peggy Online ·
    Congrats girl! Everything looks beautiful!
  • Kelly
    Expert October 2019
    Kelly ·

    Congrats. Everything looks so beautiful and sound like it was (well with the exception of the heat) so beautiful. Were the program fans a hit?

  • 2d Bride
    Master October 2009
    2d Bride ·

    What I always say is that there are two things that can happen at a wedding: everything goes perfectly, or you some day have stories to tell your grandchildren (which will actually be funny, when followed by, "but in spite of that, we've been happily married for 50 years now"). It sounds like just enough things went wrong to ensure you've got the latter, without so many going wrong that you felt like it was a disaster.

  • Michelle
    Super August 2019
    Michelle ·
    Love it! We all know little things will happen and we just need to brush them off and enjoy ourselves. Your pictures are beautiful and it sounds like you had a great time (except almost passing out lol). I definitely plan to have an outfit to change into just in case. Our wedding is in mid August and outdoors. Friends of ours got married at the same venue a few years ago around the same time and it was ridiculously hot! I like to be prepared for anything! Lol
  • Emly
    Expert June 2020
    Emly ·

    YAY!! Congrats girl! I have enjoyed hearing your big day come together and all the great ideas you had along the way. So happy for you both!

  • Jo
    WeddingWire Administrator May 2015
    Jo ·

    OMG what a ride! Sounds like there were some ups and downs but everything still looks beautiful, especially you! Thank you for sharing all your advice and stories - we're so glad to have you back!

  • Cristy
    Rockstar May 2020
    Cristy ·

    Congratulations Danielle!! You did it!! You look so beautiful!! I'm so happy for you. Too bad about the heat, but you survived!! I can't wait to see the pro-bam.

  • Katherine
    Expert July 2019
    Katherine ·

    Congrats! I'm glad you were able to switch into a lighter dress! Was the whole wedding outdoors or was part of it indoors?

  • Gen
    Rockstar June 2019
    Gen ·
    Beautiful photos! I’ve been looking forward to your BAM so glad your day went well even though it was so hot, yikes! Luckily you were able to change!
  • FutureMrsD
    Rockstar July 2019
    FutureMrsD ·

    Congratulations, great BAM! I'm glad you were so close to home and changing was so easy! I'll keep that in mind to bring a backup outfit just in case, and for sure stay in the AC rooms and stay hydrated! Did you get a refund from your bakery?

  • Sherry
    VIP September 2019
    Sherry ·

    Sounds like for the most part, your big day was awesome! Congrats! Love the group melting pic lol

  • Formerbride
    VIP June 2019
    Formerbride ·
    Congrats! I had a cake issue also. Asked for buttercream, got whipped cream. 😒 I'm glad you had a great day!
  • Cher Horowitz
    Master December 2019
    Cher Horowitz ·

    Such a beautiful wedding! Glad you enjoyed it despite the heat and the cake. Congratulations!

  • Brooke
    Expert November 2019
    Brooke ·

    Congrats!! So glad your wedding went well, can't wait to see all the photos!

  • SummerBrideInAutumn
    Rockstar October 2019
    SummerBrideInAutumn ·

    YAY! You're back! Glad to hear that things went so well, for the most part. I feel for you on the heat. At least you were able to get a new outfit and get some relief. I can't wait to see your pro pics!

  • darcy
    Devoted June 2019
    darcy ·

    Congratulations!! I agree with you on the dress thing. I was married in Virginia mid June. My dress wasn't poofy but it was LONG and HOT. I managed to stay in it, but I can tell you if it had been any hotter I would've had to change.

  • Danielle
    Rockstar June 2019
    Danielle ·
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    Thank you

  • Danielle
    Rockstar June 2019
    Danielle ·
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    Thank you. Yes, the program fans definitely came in handy. Even the bridal party snagged some and used them during the ceremony, lol.

  • Danielle
    Rockstar June 2019
    Danielle ·
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    I agree. We definitely have some good stories to tell, and despite what went wrong, I still think the day was just perfect.

  • Danielle
    Rockstar June 2019
    Danielle ·
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    Thank you. My advice: find shade, use fans, and stay hydrated! It's hard to maintain in the heat, people get grouchy, lol.

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