Non-brides in white

If it looks bad on anyone, it's the guest in white. I wouldn't cry over it

The last wedding i went to a guest wore a white dress and we ALL were side-eying her. We obviously all knew who the bride was, but really? of ALL the colors you have, you had to pick that one?

I've been noticing a lot more people wearing white floral dresses. I personally wouldn't even tip toe into the white color family

Yeah, it's rude. No one did it at my wedding. I would not cry but I would absolutely say something.

Of course it's rude. I'd side eye the shit out of a guest wearing white. Then, I'd strain my eyes from side-eying the bride crying about it.

Had no idea was rude to wear white, so I guess if someone were to wear white wouldn't bother me. Since I'm not wearing white, maybe someone should! Lol

I think it's a little weird to get upset to the point of crying because someone wears white to your wedding. I also think it's weird for someone to wear white to a wedding but I think it reflects on the person wearing white, not on the bride. My husband's cousin wore a white, lace dress to our wedding. I noticed and thought it was a little strange but everyone knew I was the bride so I honestly didn't care.

No. I think it's tacky af. And disrespectful. Anddd uhhh fuckin rude. Out of all days they could wear white why the fuck choose a wedding when it's not there's?? I really hope no one does this at my wedding next Saturday. JS

I agree that I would totally side-eye someone wearing white to a wedding, but I wouldn't be upset about it enough to cry. Unless there were extreme circumstances like if it was FMIL or someone else in my FH's family doing it intentionally to express their hatred of me. Luckily I don't have to worry about it, my FH's family is great lol

I wouldn't cry about it, side eye - yes. But honestly it's probably the last thing I'd even notice.

It's super disrespectful, end of story. It's a known fact that you shouldn't wear white to a wedding. I'd totally side eye the shit out of someone who did, but they aren't worth it.

It's just rude as hell IMO.

Wearing white to someone's wedding is incredibly rude so I would judge the hell out of someone for doing so. Not worth being upset or crying over it though.

I'd certainly never do it ... and you can bet I'll think less of any woman who does it .... definitely won't cry over it if it happens at my wedding though ...

Crying is really dramatic. It's inconsiderate to wear white to a wedding but who cares? If she was focusing so much on what someone else was wearing that she CRIED, she needs to buck up.

It's one of my biggest pet-peeves. If I see a woman wearing white at a wedding, it bothers me disproportionately much. That being said, if someone wears white (ivory/pale gold/blush/whatever) at my wedding, I will not give a damn. I will be far too busy enjoying the day and be happy to care.

But for those who say "no one will confuse them for the bride", I don't think that is necessarily true always. At my cousin's wedding, his sister chose to wear an ivory evening gown. Plenty of people had only seen the bride-to-be once and plenty never before. So when the sister stepped out of the car (she arrived later than the groom), many people started clapping, thinking she was the bride. She was extremely embarrassed and I am sure the bride's side was not very impressed either, but then again, what did she expect?

Another example: My brother's wife is really petite and they were getting married in July, which is super hot here. So she chose a very simple, floor-length, white, silk dress as her wedding dress. A dress that another guest chose to wear ( truly minimal differences, it was almost a copy). Both of them wore their hair down. The girl was practically a clone of the bride, it was ridiculous and several times during the evening people went to congratulate the clone, were confused and subsequently annoyed. That guest was the rude one, but we were the irritated ones.

And finally, I might not confuse the guest for the bride, but when I catch white with the side of my eye, I expect to turn and see the bride. Yeah, when I take a proper look, I will know it's not her, but it irks me to no end when it happens.

(yeah, I have some very strong feelings about this xD)

@Shelob you bring up a point. Why would you not be annoyed if someone wore a dress the same color as yours (provided you're not wearing white)? As others said, most brides don't wear stark white anymore. Everything is blush, ivory, or champagne. Brides are even wearing black.

I wouldn't melt down or cry or anything but I think it's rude and tacky AF.

Nobody will mistake them for the bride, but I would side-eye real hard at someone for doing that.

@La Grosera Personally, I think you should avoid anything super light. Here we don't do coloured dresses at all, black is certainly unheard of, the most extreme is blush.

I consider it common sense to avoid anything remotely bride-like when it comes to colours. However, if a bride chose to wear a non-traditional colour and it was important to her that she is the only one wearing it, then I believe it is her responsibility to get that information out there and I would not blame a guest for not divining she chose to go that route if there was no information given (or if they did not get the memo).

If I wore a non-traditional colour, I would not care to veto my choice colour on a guest's attire, I would feel I am over-stepping my boundaries, as a bride I would be one of the two honored people that day, not fashion police.

But as I said, I would not mind it specifically on my wedding day, because I will be too busy with other things and b. to be honest, I get more easily annoyed/bothered on someone's that I care about behalf (over-protective is my middle name), than I get offended for things that have to do with me, I am pretty easy-going in that aspect.

Some of us never got the memo. I wouldn't wear white anywhere, but honestly, I see it almost every week. No one is confused about who the bride is.....

And black? I am outside of NYC....of course, there is plenty of black.

And plenty of brides in colors too...

I do find it rude but I wouldn't let it ruin my day.

I sincerely doubt I would give a single fudge.