Nobody cares and I'm bummed

Sorry you're feeling bad about it. Here's what my rule has been: If they ask you, keep it to a couple sentences tops. If they don't, well don't bring it up. . . I won't repeat what almost every other person on here has said lol. . . But the saying is definitely true. ETA:unless you're here on WW of course!

@MrsAtwood True that. As soon as we got engaged my mom made it very clear that is is our special DAY not our special YEAR. It was hilarious.

For most people, your wedding is an abstract concept. Something far away on the horizon, barely a blip on their radar. I think once you get really close to your date people will start being more excited because then it's more concrete. I do understand where you are coming from. I thought my mom would be way more excited than she is. As it stands, she's pretty "meh" on the whole thing. But I know she'll be so happy the day of. So take it in stride, OP. It's all part of the process.

@Erika

While no one will care as much as you do, is it possible that you have been apt to talk about the wedding a lot and people are just over it?

I can see where you're coming from and I'm guilty of it. When my sister got married I was so excited to start with the planning but by 6 months out from her wedding I was sooooo sick of wedding talk. It wasn't anything against her, my eyes just started to bleed frome looking at so many flower arrangements lol. But seriously though this is SUCH A special time in your life. I would talk to your mom or another really close relative and tell them how you're feeling. Could be you're just talking to the people who don't get excited about wedding talk. And I think the closer you get to your day the talk/excitement will amp up

@MrsAtwood Yeeeessss! She said she is thankful she lives in another state. It's all in good fun. If my mom didn't give me shit, she wouldn't be my mom! Also on a side note, I think your nickname should be MrsSasswood.

Yep, that's how it is. When we told his parents, his mom walked out of the room and his dad told us not to rush the date (they don't approve of same sex marriage). His siblings didn't even bat an eye. Not just because it's us but they don't get excited for marriage or even pregnancies. They just don't celebrate.

My siblings were happy and my parents were smiling but no one asks about the wedding stuff at all except my sister (who I ask many questions and go to for wedding help).

Friends may ask, may not. Other family haven't even acknowledged our engagement except for 2 cousins and an uncle.

I have a couple people who are still in the 'excited to talk wedding stuff with me' category (My mom, along with my sister and one friend who kinda live and breath this kind of thing) so I'm happy to get to talk about it with them, although I realize in a few months they'll probably be tired of it and that's okay.

Beyond that though as much as I want to talk about every detail in every conversation I know most people really aren't going to care and I keep it for conversations with people who want to talk about it instead.

Lol @Erika, I'll take it!

I had to remind myself that other stuff was going on besides my wedding, remember to ask people how they are doing and it will come up but also remember that you have plenty of time for people to get excited about your wedding trust me when the month of your wedding gets here you will just want to be married an on your honeymoon.

A friend of mine was engaged the same time as me an I got married in June an she got married in November, by September she had called me and complained about people asking if she was ready for her wedding. She was ready to scream, I had already been there so I knew what she was going through. My question to her was how are you? We talked a little about her wedding but I knew not to bring it up and my advice to her was to say well I'm ready to be on a beach somewhere with my husband.

I'm a bridesmaid in my friend's wedding in September, and it got to the point where I had to stop responding to some texts because it was just too much. I'm so excited about my friend's wedding, don't get me wrong, but it was just one thing after the other. Any time she would try to be interested in what was going on in my life, I could tell it was going in one ear and out the other. My boyfriend and I were going through some big stuff in our lives, and it felt like what I was going through didn't matter anymore. I don't think she knows she's being like this, because she's giving herself the impression she's LISTENING to us about other stuff. But when she asks the same question over and over that I've already answered, I know she's not really there.

She went out of the country for a month for work, and I thought it would be a respite, but it's even worse because the time difference makes conversation time limited. Everything is only about the wedding now. I will be very excited once her wedding day is here. We get a great day celebrating her getting married, then I can have my friend back.

Like everyone said "no one will care as much as you do" now that my wedding is getting closer I'm getting phone calls and texts about it because it's getting real and is closer.

This forum is great bc you can talk about weddings all you want.

Glad I found this. Been feeling like this lately and kinda happy I'm not the only one that feels this way sometimes during wedding planning.

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Hi Amanda, this thread is from 2016 but I'm glad it helped.

Try and remember that no-one will care as much about your wedding as you and your fiancé. Congrats!

As long as you care and your partner cares then I don't see the problem. Especially after the last 2 years we've all had, everyone is so absorbed in their own life's it's hard to know what anyone is thinking anymore.

I feel the same way. Of course they were excited about the engagement portion. Our wedding isn't til April 2023 so I kinda get it but I do feel disappointed in the lack of excitement from friends. Especially since I have been there for them! Moving houses, babies, their weddings, family drama etc etc. I don't think it's wrong to want the same in return. I'm not saying it should be on their minds 24/7 but it would be nice to have someone to talk to about it. Anyways, that's why I've joined some FB groups etc to bounce ideas off of. Best of luck! I'm sure it's just a normal feeling and most likely just a phase.

YES! I have had moments like this. To be fair though, I never bring up anything wedding related to anyone to avoid people who can’t help themselves with voicing their unwanted opinions. So I just avoid it. Lol
Honestly, nobody really does care as much as you do about your wedding. That’s just how it is. I’m sure they are excited and happy for you, but that’s about it. Don’t expect much more than that or you’ll be really sad. Happily plan your wedding, ask for opinions from those that matter, and have a great wedding!