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Nikki
Savvy October 2016

Nobody cares and I'm bummed

Nikki, on June 22, 2016 at 9:20 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 38

Hello All,

My wedding is in October and planning has been going really well. However, I've started to feel like nobody cares anymore. Nobody asks how things are going. I try not to overload people with wedding talk, but when I do mention something, it gets less of a response than a conversation about the weather. I'm not really looking for a solution, just wondering if others have had moments where it seems like you're the only person who's interested in your wedding.

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Latest activity by Steph, on April 4, 2022 at 9:31 PM
  • NowASeptMrs
    Master September 2015
    NowASeptMrs ·
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    No one is going to care about your wedding as much as you. People don't want to hear about it for months and months. You may live it but they don't. Sorry if that's harsh but it's true.

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  • LoveInDC
    Master November 2016
    LoveInDC ·
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    My favorite mantra: "No one cares about my wedding as much as I do." Repeat as necessary. Appreciate when they ask. Understand when they don't.

    ETA: As you can see, many of us have dealt with this and all received the same, great advice. We're always here to help and listen when you're excited though Smiley smile

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  • JamieLynn
    Master June 2016
    JamieLynn ·
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    Honey, I'm sure you have heard on here that no one cares about your wedding as much as you do. It's true. That's why we are here! I'm sorry you feel like nobody cares. The truth is, wedding planning almost takes over parts of our lives at times, and other people can't relate when they aren't going through it. Like I said - that's why we are here. Post your questions, thoughts, ideas, etc!

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  • Jasmine
    Super March 2017
    Jasmine ·
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    I second Lauren but I'm sorry you feel that way

    ETA: Turns out I fourth it

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  • Amy
    Super December 2016
    Amy ·
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    Yep, that's because no one will ever be as excited as we are about the wedding. Brush it off! Those people are still going to celebrate with you on your big day. Smiley smile

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  • taetae88
    VIP October 2018
    taetae88 ·
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    Well they do say "nobody cares about your wedding as much as you do"

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  • EM
    Master April 2017
    EM ·
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    I totally get where you are coming from but I promise you, if you expect anyone to be as excited about your wedding as you are, you are going to be disappointed every time.

    A wedding is about you and your SO pledging to spend your lives together, so really the only two people you should care about are yourself and your SO.

    Sorry you're feeling bummed though, just try to refocus that you will be marrying your best friend. I'm sure people will show their excitement on your wedding day.

    Eta: wow we literally all posted the same thing lmao

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  • LuvBeingMarried2Him!
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    LuvBeingMarried2Him! ·
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    Yes! I've had a similar experience especially from girlfriends who are still single.

    The second I even mention wedding in maybe 1 sentence, I feel a shift in conversation.

    My in-laws don't even ask 1 question about that wedding either ..

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  • BeachBride
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    BeachBride ·
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    I know PP have already said it but it's worth saying again. "No one cares about your wedding as much as you do." I have to repeat myself this on a daily basis almost. ETA: I now try to only bug my FH and mom with wedding stuff. they both just put up with it at this point

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  • Kristen
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    Yes, absolutely. The saying exists for a reason, that no else cares about your wedding as much as you do. Especially you have to realize that most people are planning their wedding for at least 6 months up to a few years. Of course friends and family are going to lose interest here and there along the way. They have a lot of other stuff going on in their own lives in that time frame. Once the wedding is closer, they will most likely get excited again.

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  • OMW
    Master August 2013
    OMW ·
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    They don't care how the planning is going.

    That said, I'm sure they're happy for you and can't wait to be there. But hearing about planning? Not interesting to most.

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  • Nikki
    Savvy October 2016
    Nikki ·
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    Thanks @Can'tW8toMarryHim! I'm glad I'm not alone. I get that nobody will care about it more than me, but I didn't think it'd feel like they're not interested at all. My own mother doesn't ask about it!

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  • JamieLynn
    Master June 2016
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    Nikki - many times I felt like you are feeling, and if it weren't for FH and friends I've made on WW - I may have lost it a time or two. It's normal - they will show up on your wedding day and celebrate with you, but they don't care to know planning details.

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  • LuvBeingMarried2Him!
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    LuvBeingMarried2Him! ·
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    My mother doesn't ask either, I was just speaking about that to a friend today. Some women are very supported by a wonderful group of women who are involved it the planning .. I,

    On the other hand am pretty much handling everything on my own with my fiancé and it can feel a little lonely at times.

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  • Mrs. CK
    VIP November 2015
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    I found that no one asked about it til about a month before. That's when everyone was like "can I help?" "Are you excited?!" To them october is far far away.

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  • Bridget
    Expert November 2016
    Bridget ·
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    I can relate, in a way. FH told me his mom was upset because she felt I wasn't including her enough on the wedding planning or updating her much. So, the couple of times after that, I made sure I made it a point to mention something. I'd get like, 2 words out of her. So it's a double edge sword. But like everyone else has said, no one truly cares as much as you do, but that's what's important because it's your day.

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  • A Bride
    Super August 2016
    A Bride ·
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    We'll we're here to hear your wedding updates!

    Personally, I never bring up wedding talk, unless someone asks and even then I try not to talk their ear of too much.

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  • Kristina
    Master September 2016
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    I actually wish people would stop asking me sometimes. Especially the are you excited question. I may be in the minority but there is so much more in life. People are really happy for you but they have other things going on too. This is what WW is for. You can comment on others posts and share your excitement.

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  • Brooke
    VIP October 2016
    Brooke ·
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    That's what the ww community is for! Jump in on planning posts. We are all excited!

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  • Mrs. Sasswood
    Master October 2016
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    You get one day. Not every day leading up to it.

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