Nobody can agree on a bridesmaid dress

I would put my foot down now...its to crazy to have everyone agree on a dress..its what you want not them

What do they not like about some of the dresses?

I was a bridesmaid in my brother's wedding and my sister in law picked the dress. We were all very different body types and I was 7 months pregnant but we all wore the same awful dress! It's your right to pick what you want! Have you been to https://m.azazie.com/all/bridesmaid-dresses?gclid=Cj0KEQiAlsrFBRCAxcCB54XElLEBEiQA_ei0DFOyG-27Dqc0jmVyL6C0sWO3qJKPXKKOUPJzAe7ogAAaAkky8P8HAQ ? They have a great selection and pretty cheap! My daughter in law got hers they're and they were gorgeous!

@Maui K---- Every dress suggestion that has come up:

"It's too sparkly"

"It makes my arms look fat"

"It's unflattering for my stomach"

"It's too low cut"

"It's too plain"

"I don't want to show my back"

Oh my god, I can't keep doing this!

Pick a length, color, and material then allow them to find a dress that makes them feel beautiful.

You also have PLENTY of time to get dresses. My girls just got their dresses at the beginning of this month and my wedding is in May.

Have you tried a dress that can just we worn differently up top? Like same dress but can be bought strapless, with straps, etc that's what I did and they all picked the straps

If you're ok with mismatched look why not just give them color and length requirements and let them pick what they want?

@FutureRand, I'm "ok" with mismatched dresses only out of frustration. I would REALLY PREFER for everyone to wear the same dress. Is it unreasonable for me to ask everyone to wear the same dress? It'll be my wedding and my wedding pictures after all.

They aren't photo props. Let them be comfortable.

You don't, unless you want to buy all their dresses for them. There is nothing wrong with mismatched dresses. If you are insistent they all match, then maybe you need to offer to buy the dresses for them.

I let mine have free reign as long as they were the same length, fabric, and within the color scheme I gave them. They are doing you an honor by being in your wedding. You don't have to put your foot down on anything. You can kindly ask how you can help them with their dress order or ask if there is something that you can do to make their participation easier. In the end, they may choose to be a guest rather than in the BP, and that should be their choice. Choosing not to buy a dress they don't like or can't afford, is in effect, choosing to be a guest. You certainly don't give them an ultimatum by saying, "Have this dress bought by this date or you can't be in the wedding." They don't technically have to have it until the day before.

Also, make sure the others didn't delay because they don't have the money. I would be more apt to say, "I don't like that dress" over "I'm too broke to spend that much."

Try looking up eshakti.com. I gave my girls a color and dress length and turned them loose to choose their own dress. The site has options to custom order for size, neckline, etc. so everyone was comfortable with their selection.

I am considering just picking the color and letting my bridesmaids pick the dress they like. Everyone has different body types and budgets. I want all of them to feel comfortable and beautiful!

Pick a few ground rules and stick to them. Decide where you'll be flexible and keep that in mind as well. Suggest a few styles to your BMs, but if they want to find their own dresses, ask if they;ll run them by you before they put any money down.

If my ladies couldn't agree I would much rather worry about their happiness than my pics. I asked them to stand up with me because they mean the world to me, not because of a photo op. Why would you want your nearest and dearest to either be unhappy in their dress or attend as a guest? That doesn't seem fair.

So you would rather have them all in the same dress and be miserable because it's your wedding and your wedding photos? You do realize that if they are uncomfortable or feel insecure that it will show in your precious photos?

If I were you, I would give them a color and let them pick. Everyone is different size and body shape wise, you don't want them uncomfortable and paying for a dress that they absolutely hate. I personally chose a store that offered multiple designers, we went together and chose 3 different designers based on color swatches and how they looked together. The variations of burgundy look beautiful together and in the end they ended up with dresses that they loved. They also chose different materials, one is even in sequins, it didn't clash one bit. I've been in their shoes as a bridesmaid and have bought numerous dresses that I hated, I couldn't do that to them.

Lemme just stop you right there.

The "it's my wedding" thing is a poor excuse for being totally overbearing (and in some cases, rude).

Your BMs are NOT photo props, they are your friends.

If you just want x amount of people to wear the same dress and show up looking like clones hire some actors. They could use the money.

If you want your friends to be up there with you, loosen the collar a little bit and them wear a dress in the designated color and length that makes them feel beautiful.

Take it from a David's Bridal employee, certified wedding planner and bride-to-be...if you have more than 2 bridesmaids 9 times out of 10 they will not all agree. It is your wedding and they agreed to be in it and they love you(I hope). As long as you were clear about your expectations in the beginning they have no right to give you a hard time. With that being said, if not, then you need to pick a color and let them each pick their own dress but also include what you do NOT want. I told them I want purple dresses, long or high low and no strapless, I told them that and they picked their own dresses. One less headache for me. #goodluck

Just pick one dress and have them get it. I didn't love every dress that I had to order when I was a bridesmaid, but I respected the brides decision, it was her wedding.

My best friend let us all pick our own dresses and she picked the colors. None of us are wearing the same dresses, and we each have a different color, but the place she got them from a place could make any of the dresses in whichever color the bride wanted, so I'm sure you could get that for your bridesmaids. Just make sure they look good on the ladies and that they look good together.