No wonder people think honeyfunds are okay.....

My FH started telling me about this "great" idea someone told him that they did for their wedding... He sounded super excited to tell the story and I was excited to hear about it until he said, "They registered for a honey, um, I think it's called a honey something..." He couldn't even get the word Honeyfund out of his mouth before I shot down the idea. After I explained why it was awful, he agreed with me.

If I saw a honeyfund on a registry, I'd be ordering the ugliest crockpot I could find. And bringing it to the wedding.

I know how to give you cash. Everyone knows how to give you cash. It's the easiest thing in the world.

Also, did you all know Honeyfund was on Shark Tank and was invested in by Kevin? So, of course no one thinks twice about it.

@Lauren, exactly. What you posted makes so much sense.

@ChamC my DH and I say this all the time. A gift invovles money still. It's just that people don't like being asked outright or in the form of a honeyfund. If you're asking for a gift, you're asking me to give you my money in a specific form. How is getting an actual gift any different?

I agree that cash is the way to go if you don't want the percentage taken out from a website tho.

Asking for money is cultural (think money dance, etc). It's offensive in some cultures and expected in others. Don't let the cultural biases of people on this forum influence you. If it's accepted and expected that guests will bring/give cash then go for it.

I wouldn't be offended if a couple had one. If I plan to put $$ in a card I don't have a problem paying it on a website either. At the end of the day, I'm spending the same amount.

And if a couple wanted cash instead of a gift, so be it. It's non of my business how they choose to use it (honeymoon, activities, bills, etc). I try not to judge people.

Asking for money outright is rude. It's not a "cultural bias" thing, requesting money for a honeymoon comes off as entitled and in poor taste.

A registry, as PP had already explained, is created to help guide guests who will inevitably bring gifts to the shower and/or wedding. Without one, there is no way for guests to know what has already been purchased for you and you will most likely end up with multiple vacuums, Crock-Pots, etc

In a way, I totally agree with you Cham C. I always thought honeymoon funds were tacky but honestly...asking for anything from ppl is weird. I get that it's the tradition but seriously, a lot of what's on registries is just as unnecessary as a trip. No, no one is entitled to a trip but no one is entitled to a grill or Egyptian cotton sheets either. I'd rather not ask for a thing and if ppl want to give us money to set up our home or whatever, that's very kind of them.

Yup I get that email every couple of weeks lol people should just go on the tv show 4 weddings to win a honeymoon haha I love that show