No wonder people think honeyfunds are okay.....

A travel agent we talked to also asked if we'd want to add a honeyfund for extra activities. I told her hell no lol

It's al about money; not yours, theirs and how they can get more. They don't care if it's tacky; it makes them a buck.

I get emails from the knot about setting up a honeyfund. So annoying.

Just curious why you think they aren't okay?

I had a Honeyfund when we first started planning, but I cancelled it shortly after. It's kind of like gofundme, where they take a percentage.

"Give me money so I can go on vacation" Try saying that to one of your friends or family members in person.

That's why.

Breanna- exactly what Prison Mike, Whitney and Celia said

I had a 2nd cousin get married a few years ago and had registered for activities for their honeymoon. I thought it was odd at first, but then when we couldn't attend (out of town, raising kids, couldn't afford to go), we decided to give them a rafting trip from their registry. It was pretty cool to get a thank you with a picture of them on the raft! I think asking for $$ is wrong - you'll get cash from a lot of people anyway, but I've changed my mind on the activities thing.

The couple doesn't *really* get the excursion that they are registering for. The website (whatever one chooses to use) takes a percentage out, then sends the couple a check.

Except the activities thing is just a sneaky way to ask for cash @MOB. Even though the couple you gifted did end up using it for rafting, they just got a check from the website and could have used that money for anything. Some couples just put a bunch of fake activities so they can squeeze cash out of their family and friends. Plus you can bet your bottom that website took a chunk of change (around 3-7%) out of your gift before it made it to the couple.

Yeah, I got that from Target a couple times, too. I had to hit unsubscribe, lol. I didn't even end up registering with Target, anyway.

@MOB you are aware that the whole activities thing is pretty BS right.. it is put there so that you feel like you are buying them some sort of activity when in reality most couples take the money and do whatever they please with that.

I didn't understand the issue with honeyfunds n didn't mind other couples having them...Until I found out that the company takes out a fee. No thanks...Cash gift it is!

So I'm just curious is ok for guest getting you a gift because that's what wedding registry is right? You register so people would get you the things you want in your house or as a gift so either way that's money involved and techically involving to ask because you register, asking for funds to decorate your home apt, etc. How is it not the same??

@prison Mike yes I understand that but I also understand no one entitled for anything not even a gift. The presence of the family and friends good enough. Your basically saying is ok to shower them with the gift you pick out but not ok for a fund. Either way is money and no one entitled to anything.

That's not true. My FH and I have a honeyfund showing the activities that we want to do, and we will most definitely be using the money given to go towards those specific activities they "bought". Otherwise, I wouldn't have put them on the registry. So if someone buys us an activity to go horseback riding on the beach, and even though a percentage will be taken out and a check sent to us, I will personally make sure to use that money to do just that! You can't assume how people will use it. Everyone has there opinions. Whether there tacky or not, it is what it is. If you don't like them then don't use it, or give a gift on it.. We can afford our honeymoon regardless if people put money towards it or not, but my FH and I have lived together for a couple of years and have everything that we need. I rather have someone pay for an experience that will create an everlasting memory, then buy a coffee pot that I am going to end up returning anyway, and getting that money handed to me to do with what I want. So what's the difference? Or it's the same as someone bringing a card with cash, but they actually get to put it towards an experience that I will make sure they get a picture of. Otherwise, that card holding cash will probably go to bills... Sorry if I don't get what the big deal is with honeyfunds. Me asking for gifts through my honeyfund is the same as someone asking for gifts (money) from Target, BBB, etc. We're all asking for the same thing at the end of the day..

@soon2bemrs2017 our travel agent asked us the same thing!

This is my second wedding and my FH (his first wedding) and I have everything we need (of course we'd like some new towels/sheets/etc). We have paid for our wedding on our own (which is the right thing to do in our family situation). BUT we did register at Zola.com because it gave people the option to help us with our honeymoon experiences and also add some additional items we may need/want as stated above. We have a destination wedding planned so we didn't want to hassle with guests bringing gifts (if they choose) and of course figuring out how to get them home. We aren't doing it to be tacky or money hungry because we are neither of those things, but more so to provide a list of experiences we'd like and also help guide our guests. In the end all we want is our family and friends there, not the money/gifts.

To those of you trying to defend honeyfunds...

But why is that different than having your friends and family fund your home necessities? We already own a home and live together and have everything we need.