No Wedding Shower, so no registry?

I'm not having a shower but created a small registry. Some people in our families prefer a physical gift of monetary. I figured we'd make a registry for stuff we would use or else we will get random gifts and duplicates.

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That's a good idea, I guess people still bring gifts to a wedding.

It's always fine to create a registry, if there are things that you want. You don't need to worry about sharing it until people ask you if you have one, so that part is easy. But it's definitely cultural/regional/family custom if your guests will be planing to bring money to the wedding or if they will be shopping for gifts.

No you can still do a registry dear. Just make one add it to your wedding website and then people can bring those gifts to the wedding. Because if my ladies decide to throw me a bridal shower I don’t want gifts there and at the wedding. So it’s up to you there is no right or wrong way to do a wedding dear. Good luck!

I didn't have a shower and still had a registry. People who attend your wedding will want to give you a gift and it will help guide them. You don't need a ton of items on there. Just a few from several price points. If you don't have a registry, they'll buy something random and you'll be stuck with it. That was my thinking :-)

View Quoted Comment Thank you all for your help and advice! I wasn't sure what to do, but I think I'm going to talk to my FH about creating a registry. Thanks again!

People want to share your happiness whether they are invited or not, including coworkers and fellow church members. While many disagree, a number of social circles and families do not give cash/experience gifts and default to physical gifts. If you don’t have a physical registry, you will receive gifts you don’t want and can’t return anywhere. A registry lets guests and others know what you want and need. The size of the guest list is irrelevant.


A registry is essentially a wish list of things you want and need that you would not spend your own money on. It doesn’t have to be restricted to towels and sheets only. What are your shared interests as a couple? Do you entertain guests? Do you enjoy the outdoors? Do you have a favorite shared fandom? What items have you had your eye on in the store that you can’t justify spending your own money on? Put those on your list.

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Thank you for the advice, Michelle! I really appreciate this community and how helpful everyone is. I'm having more of an "untraditional" wedding considering how wedding in my family have usually gone (150+ people) so I feel a little lost about what I should do and what I want to do.