No Wedding Party

We have no wedding party, and i have to say it's made things a lot easier. We've been able to keep our wedding about us and simple, like we wanted to begin with.

Man, if I could restart this wedding process I would totally say no to a bridal party, but it is what it is for me now!

I am thrilled with my MOH, who I have been friends with for over 13 years but I would certainly have taken my time in choosing different BM's. Between the BM's and the GM's they have been a major source of stress for me. As it turns out I might just have my MOH standing next to me when the time comes anyway. Long story but it just reinforces what I said about choosing different people or no one at all.

At first I thought I was going to miss out on that part of the whole process. Or that I would be alone getting ready the day of. Or that I would miss out on a shower or bachelorette party. Not at all! I had the best shower from my sis and a friend together. And another friend who was all about planning a bachelorette party! No crisis and it's all be so lovely! Since it has all worked out, I totally recommend the simplistic route. But I do understand if you still want to go the traditional way…I'm sure there are more brides that have a wonderful bridal party that we never hear about on here.

Oh Brandie! I'm sorry to hear that. If it all works out that way in the end. I hope that you have resolved to ok with it. You should feel loved and beautiful on your big day! Just remember (this is my favorite bit of advice I have ever heard), all you have to do on that day is get married. All the rest is fluff. Good luck girl!

@Rock-n-roll bride - Great advice! I am finally at peace with all the craziness. The most important part of that day is getting married. I'm going to enjoy my day and I have alot of people who are really happy for us and will be there to celebrate. I can't and won't let the few who want to create drama ruin this for us.

In my experience, the girls who have planned a wedding themselves are so much less stress and much more supportive than the others. I think they just know what I am going through. The other ones are definitely good, but much less supportive, they are in it for the parties. I see it as a balance that in the end will work.

YAY! Good for you! That isn't an easy place to get to when people you feel close to "rain on your parade" so-to-say. I'm impressed!

Yeah, if I could go back, I would have said no wedding party...
No one is causing drama, it's just I have 3 MOHs because I didn't want to hurt anyone's feelings and honestly I could not choose between them.

My MOHs are awesome and are there any time I need them, but having none verses 3 might have been a little less confusing for everyone. But I’m happy regardless!! I couldn’t have done all this on my own, so more power to you awesome ladies who are kicking (or have kicked) butt without a party!

My FH is helping out a lot! He knows that I will just go without some of the things he might want if I run out of time.

He's the best! And seems to like to be involved with the process.

I am confused is it only in my state that their has to be "witnesses" (MOH&BM) to the wedding?

I didn't have a bridal party adn I'm super happy I didn't. Soooo much less stress and $!

@Future Mrs. Wells :: You need to have witnesses to sign your marriage license in every state (I think), but nowhere does it say they need to stand with you at the altar. They need to be there, see it, and sign on the dotted line -- that's it. Tradition gives them a role and responsibilities. I'm sure you can find somewhere that tells you why all the rest came to be tradition, since I don't know that part of it.

FL you actually don't need witnesses. Fine with us we have no wedding party

Hi Future Mrs Wells no we have to have 2 witness in the state of ohio and its usually the MOH and the BM. If you had a wedding party.

FI and I are having a MOH and BM - and that's it. FI is the oldest of 10 kids so it was either have a HUGE wedding party and include everyone or just have one person on each side. And because we're having a destination wedding (that is going to cost guests money to attend - flight, hotel, etc) we didnt' want to burdon people by being in the wedding party and having to put extra money in for BM dresses, suite, etc. My sister will stand up for me and one of my FI's brothers will stand up for him.

My only concern is that pictures with the 'bridal party' will look a bit bare since there will only be us and 2 other people.

@Kristin :: I'm sure that your photographer will come up with something creative to make them amazing photos. They have seen it all and usually have solutions for anything.

I love my bridal party, they are very supportive and helpful so I am really grateful! My MOH has been my BFF since we were in elementary and I go to her for decisions that I can't make and my BMs are going to help me with all my DYI stuff.. Maybe my mind will change as time passes and I'll wish I didn't have them, but for now I am very grateful for my girls! The guys aren't a hassel.. except the Best Man.. looovvve him to death but he wants full say over the men's attire and I know he has good sense, but he snuffs at my color choices for the tux..

I chose my goddaughter as MOH and only her. That way, I didn't have to ask my sisters nor FH's sister and they don't have to spring for clothes to wear only once (and complain about money, the way it looks, etc.).

Like you, I'm so glad I made that decision.

I did decide to have a wedding party (and its quite large) we have MOH, BestMan, 4BM and 4GM.... it is supposed to be (traditionally) 1 pair (BM,GM) for every 50 people. Our wedding will be over 250 people so although it sounds big it is ok. I kind of wish we just did it without them... not because they are causing drama, but because it was hard for me to choose and the girls are all different sizes and are having hard time choosing dresses.... plus with 6 kids to include some how it gets crazy!