No Unity Candle??

The unity candle ceremony has ben around since the late 60s. Sand deal is a little more recent. Neither are necessary.

We opted for a ring warming ceremony over sand and candles. It something that made sense and has meaning for the two of us, but if you don't want anything like that don't include it! It's your day.

I'm not doing any part of a ceremony that will make it last more than like 15 minutes, tops. No unity candle, no dedication, no moment of silence.... etc etc.

I don't like that stuff. I know it means a lot to some people, but it's not my style. We're doing a one year anniversary wine box, and we're getting married at a winery, so it works!

We are doing unity cross and wedding lasso.

My FH has 2 kids so I want us to do the sand unity. Each person picks their favorite color. But I'm wanting us to combine as a family. That's why I'm doing it

Hand fasting rituals are actually centuries old. Thinking about it. Maybe the sand thing since we're getting married on a boat

I didn't even know what a unity candle was until the clause in the Catholic Church's contract said that they didn't do it. Then I learned that there were other unity rituals.

I thought getting married WAS the unity ritual....

ETA: Sorry. So, to answer your question... we're not doing anything outside of a Catholic wedding mass.

Wait, your guests are standing at your wedding though? And that's your reason for shortening the ceremony? Why not just rent some chairs and then it doesn't matter how long the ceremony is?

We got the idea from an officiant we were considering to do a wine blending during the ceremony, and then drink it during dinner at the reception. I think it sounds like a cool idea! Mix red and white to create a rose and then drink it. Sounds good to me.

I'm not sure if FH is into it or not. If we don't do that, then we won't do anything. I'm not big on the unity sand or candles either.

We are signing adoption papers for my dog so he can legally be his dad

Standing for the ceremony should not be an option unless it's literally five minutes long. And five minutes does not a ceremony make.

One of my couples that I spoke to last week said they'd been to a wedding that was over almost before it began. They said they wondered why they even went to the ceremony part....and this is a couple that was worried that their ceremony was too long...