No thank you cards???

Just be mindful that you might not know the full situation, if she's heavily pregnant she could be exhausted and could be worried about money. At least you got a thank you a lot of people wouldn't even send a text!

Better than nothing at all. I have received nothing several times before. From family members that live states away. Im always worried it never arrived and then I ask did you get the kids gifts? "Yeah."

I think you're over reacting.

If it was just this past Saturday, then it hasn't even been a week. It's been six days and you're already complaining. The text was probably a polite thank you before the formal thank you card, which people do all the time. You are definitely overacting.

No one receives thank you cards after less than a week after a big event.

I'm 21 now, and I don't think I've ever sent a thank you note. I've said thank you in person, and probably written them.. But it never was really taught that I HAD to send one. I'm not saying that's right, but I'm saying it really isn't taught to do much these days

First off, I agree that thank you cards should be sent for gifts you receive, especially for events that are generally for the sole purpose of receiving gifts. It is just good manners to do so. My Grammy was a bit obsessive about them. One time she sent me a thank you card for my thank you card.

But, I disagree that anyone should be mad if they don't get a thank you card. A gift should be just that, a gift. If you expect something in return, it isn't a gift, it's a obligation.

Im 21, and I know better and was taught to send thank you cards. It is how I was raised. So I would not base anything off age . It's how they are raised.

Not sending a CARD does NOT define how you were raised. What is everyone saying? lmao

Not saying THANK YOU is absolutely rude, but if someone shows their gratitude whether is via phone, email or a card, that should not make ANY difference.

AGAIN it has NOTHING to do with how someone was "raised". I cant!! lol

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It has become painfully evident that what we might have grown up with as proper etiquette has been tossed out the window. I am not sure what or who is to blame but I think that once people decided it was okay to do a Facebook event for anything bridal or wedding related all bets were off. I do hope that you receive a hand written thank you, but I wouldn't count on it.

I received some gifts in the mail and for some of them I texted the person to say thank you AND THEN also sent a thank you card. Maybe she'll do the same after her shower. But yes, I do agree it's

rude to not send an actual thank you card in the mail.

And also, what does this woman's age have to do with her not sending a thank you card the day of her shower (since you expected a card already)? It makes me wonder how old you yourself are. It takes a few days to write out thank you notes, and it takes about 4 days for mail to be delivered from the time it's sent. If you receive a card, it won't be but for a couple weeks. Sorry, but this should've been posted on Wednesday instead of today.

I went to a bridal shower a few years back for a friend of a friend I knew because we'd get together sometimes. I had a inkling she was just looking for a gift so I got her one of the cheapest things on the registry and I also didn't have a job at the time either so I did what I could do but I really wanted to see my girlfriends and she didn't have any favors for anyone and never even said thank you in any type of format. Still pisses me off. When my friend confronted her friend she said oh I thought I did and my friend was like no and she didn't even reach out to anybody or anything to try to fix the situation.

@SarahHoff Uhhhh, I NEVER give a gift just so i can get a thank you card in the mail! LMAO i could take the money i spent on the gift and just gift myself 1000 cards with that money. To give a thank you card just seems like common sense to me. I dont even keep thank you cards.....it's the principle. and i surely don't expect people to keep my thank you cards, i just want them to know that i appreciated their gift. i have enough stuff that my kids make for me to keep up with. so i dont give a gift because of how desperate i am for a thank you note in the mail! Please, spare me with the BS comments.....and if you read the comments, i said i was sorry for being dramatic........... Thanks!

It has only been a few days. Give it a bit of time. It would take me a couple of days just to get them together and then they would probably sit on the front seat of my car a few more. Going to the post office isn't something I do on a regular basis. I would say a couple of weeks.

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@Jacky, i posted how old i was.....I'm 28 years old with 2 children. the girl lives 15-20 minutes from me, she has no other children and has no job and is not in school. I know this because again, her mom is a friend of mine. It would only take a few minute per card (literally this is as long as it could take).

I did see that you were 28, but I still questioned it, because this is pretty immature. It's been only 6 days. 3.5 days since the beginning of the mail week. It does not take only 10 minutes to write a thank you card, because you're not the only one she has to write one for. There is no possible way you would've received one already.

Ugh, ok. well i for sure wouldn't be lying about how old i am. i found it odd that she texted me. i have never sent what shouldve been a proper thank you via mail , a text message unless i was thanking them for lunch or for something random like that. but to each it's own. i said that maybe i was being dramatic in the comments. i took the text as her way of saying thank you without sending a card. thats why this post even began. i hate that you think an adult on a wedding website would need to get online and lie about their age. i don't do that...children play childish games. not me.

@mrswrs, take it how you want. I'm stating facts and saying what some won't say. if you are too busy to send a thank you card, you are far too busy to plan an event and accept gifts....PERIOD. I'm not judging her. i don't judge anyone. thats not for me to do. sending thank you cards should be automatic, spare time or not. Do you think i really have "time" to send thank you cards? Not really, but it's just etiquette, so i MAKE the time. people make time for what they want to make time for.

I was always raised to call people who sent me a gift and talk to them. I sent thank-you cards for the wedding because that's the usual etiquette, but for birthdays/other stuff I typically call.

Wow. Glad I didn't invite you to my wedding. I'll be the first to admit that I'm terrible about sending thank you cards for gifts, but I always always ALWAYS thank that person by calling them or thanking them the next time I see them.

I did just buy some thank you cards from Target. But by your standards, I am way behind. To be honest, FH and I didn't expect to receive gifts so early before the wedding, but we've received quite a few so far. I was going back and forth on whether to have special thank you cards made with some wedding photos....but decided to buy some from Target so I can start sending them out. I received my first gift two to three weeks ago, but due to some work travel, have barely even had time to buy thank you cards, let alone write them. I did, however, thank everyone who has sent me gifts in person, by calling them or by Facebook Messaging them to let them know I received their gift and I very much appreciated it. I will follow up with a card after I've had time to actually use the gift so I can write something personal.

Give her a couple months. The shower was literally 5 days ago. Be happy she texted to let you know she received the gift. I'm sure she's very busy and has a lot of thank you cards to write.