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On the invitation outside, you address it to "John and Jane Smith" not "The Smith Family." On the RSVP card inside, you write "2 seats have been reserved in your honor." Some couples put a line for the guests to write the number attending, but this is a mistake as they might write a number more than 2.

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Also, put it on your wedding site. You have time to look for appropriate wording. Also, do NOT negotiate with people about it. Know firmly if you want 16+, 18+ or 21+. If you make any exceptions, then that person should play a role in the wedding. We have an irate sis in law because she wants her daughters invited (14 & 16). She is not US born so when we said adult she started negotiating & saying how adult her 16 yr old is…long story, we stuck with 18+. Not sure if in her country they refer to adults as 16+. Also, I have a friend and she takes her kids everywhere (13 &8) and she was originally offended that they wouldn’t be at the wedding. I stayed firm about it & now doesn’t seem to be an issue. My daughter really wants it to be free of distraction from kids, so that is what she will have!

Make sure there's a note in the invitation indicating adults only. In ours, we put "We love your little ones, but this is an adult-only affair." The only kids we had were those of our immediate family, and that's only because they were part of the wedding party. People are usually pretty receptive to the notice, just so long as there IS notice ahead of time. If you have a wedding website, I'd put it on there, too.

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This for sure.

You can put a note on the wedding website, but if people write in more than 2 seats, then you'll need to call them and clarify.

I wouldn't put it with the invitation. The invitation is meant to address who is invited, not to point out who isn't invited (ie kids).

View Quoted Comment Another way is on the invitation card, where you usually put something like "Reception to follow," you can add the word adult in it.


So for example:
You are joyfully invited to the wedding ofKimberly and Fiancé
Wednesday, August 24, 2024at # o' clock in the evening
Venue NameCity, State
Adult reception to follow

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From an etiquette perspective, it is considered to be impolite to refer to who is not being invited to an event. It is perfectly fine to choose to invite only adults to attend your wedding and reception; however, you should not use the “adults only” language.

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