No-shows and gifts?

Nope.

You should never expect anything from anyone BUT if I was a guest and I RSVP'd and couldn't come the day of after already saying I would be there I would send a gift with the amount I was planning to give. That is my own personal idea of how I would handle the situation but not everyone will do this. So to answer your question NO - I would not expect them to send something tho I feel it would be appropriate if the guest has the means to do so. I would feel horrible if I found out someone did not come because they didn't have money for a gift. The event is meant to celebrate love with people you are closest with not about money or gifts.

You should be expecting a gift from anyone at all

I'm not expecting gifts--although I would still send one if roles were reversed, so I guess I'm being too generous. I think I'm just more irked that they didn't even acknowledge the fact that they didn't show up. I know there was a reason for it, but to not even send a text... just bothers me but oh well.

@Caitlin- it should bother you. It should bother all of us. Unfortunately we are all giving rudeness a pass when it comes to issues of etiquette. Many of us are guilty of it ourselves. Just look at all the threads where people don't see any problem with including dress codes or registries on a wedding invitation.

But, you will have to get over it. If you want to take a passive aggressive approach, you could contact them "to ensure that you are ok as you didn't make it to the wedding..." LOL

I wouldn't have any expectations for a no-show

...after all, I had expected them to SHOW in the first place , so now they're totally unpredictable