No-shows and gifts?

Seriously, you have to know that he right answer is that you don't EXPECT cards or gifts from anyone.

so, my answer is no.

It’s certainly the polite thing to do but seeing as they were rude to begin with, I doubt they would.

No, I wouldn't count on no-shows to send a gift. I would expect a gift, if it were forthcoming, to precede a decline. If not, that's that.

No I wouldn't.

I didn't expect gifts from those who did come.

Okay, let me rephrase... just wondering what is customary.

If they no-showed at the last minute, they may not have had a gift to begin with

No

I would send one if I last minute bailed, because I realize it's costing them money. But would I expect one or even consider someone would send one? Not likely.

You shouldn't expect a gift from anyone, no show or not.

I would expect an apologetic text but, even that might be asking for too much. I know, life happens but dang, let a sista' know.

At mine No I didn't expect it, nor did they do it!

Well, it's customary to send the gift before the wedding. Unfortunately things happen at the last minute which prevents the guest from attending. However, the two should not be related.

So, what are your plans? Do brides keep the "no shows" in their circle of friends?

@Vicky I had no shows. I didn't even ask why they didn't come. I didn't care because it wasn't that big of a deal. Shit happens. People can't come. It's disappointing if you're looking forward to seeing the person but it's not the end of the world and not worth harping on. Certainly nothing to end relationships over.

I would at least like it for no shows to say sorry for not making it. I had a few no shows and had no problems with it because they informed me. One couple just didn't say anything and still hasn't and I was a bit irked by it.

"No gift or card" is customary, unless the guest was out of the country and could not attend, but seriously wished they could; but as I said, you'd probably also have your gift under those circumstances. Otherwise, a simple, no explanation decline means, "Best wishes, we aren't attending, but wish you the best of luck." The end.

OP, you were married several weeks ago. Don't put any hope in packages arriving at your door. It would have happened by now.

It is obvious from threads on this forum and others that a huge number of people have no idea what constitutes good manners anymore.

If someone had a last minute emergency and was unable to attend, they should be polite enough to send a note to the couple or the hosts, or both, to apologize for their absence. Wedding gifts should really be delivered to the home of the couple prior to the wedding, so no one at the wedding has to deal with ensuring the security of the gifts. But, guests have up to a year to send a gift, if they choose to do so.

On the other hand, there have been threads here about no-shows who posted on Facebook about something else they did on the day of the wedding. They simply chose to do something else when they had already rsvp'd that they would be at the wedding. I would not expect those people to send a gift. It would only draw more attention to their rude behavior.

Totally Muriel....I find it appalling honestly, from people who RSVP yes and then just don't show without a note AND a gift , knowing full well that the guest list was curated to include them and that weddings cost a fortune. To people waltzing in well beyond the start time, to asking for extra guests to be invited with them....the list goes on (the list goes on for hosts too....just to keep it fair....)

You'll probably never see anything from these people since they thought their behaviour was just fine (or you'd have seen a note by now).

Time to move on ;-(

I couldn't attend my cousin's wedding party minute due to health issues. But I already had got them a gift. I took it to the after they got back from their honeymoon. But gifts are never expected in my family.

No.