No Show at wedding from family members!

This happens all the time... If you do a quick search of the forum you will see so many posts regarding no shows, so you are not unique. Out of 183 yes RSVPs, I had 7 no shows. Two had a medical excuse, the others, not so much. Anyway, there really isn't anything to do about it and you surely can't send them a bill. I'd just focus on all the fun you had with the people that were there.

There isn’t anything you can do about it, Perhaps someone got sick or there was an emergency. Who knows? You had a wonderful wedding. Don’t focus on negative things.

Unfortunately this happens, and it's super annoying but you have no idea what could have come up. Focus on the people who were there to celebrate you!

You think about the positive aspects of your wedding and move on. Do not contact these people and do not mention it to them. People no-show all the time.

I have a feeling that might be how our's goes too. FH's side of the family is notorious for saying they will be at a family event and then not show up. He has a large family, so I feel bad for my parent's if this happens because they are paying for our reception. But FH and I did mention it to my parent's so they are aware that it is a possibility.

If it were me, I'd just ignore them. I would be SUPER offended, so I just wouldn't involve myself in future events with them nor make an effort to have a relationship.

We had 9. One couple contacted me, we heard from others that 1 was sick, one couple was going through some rough times again from others, H's niece and her boyfriend had an emergency work meeting and they never made it. And two people who were supposed to bring dates didn't. We didn't notice until we looked at our seating chart, yesterday. It was like $800 that we blew for people to not show up. To be fair they weren't people close to me, no one super close to me bailed 100% out, just the first couple, and I was a little bummed, but she did reach out.

I’d be upset if they didn’t reach out and say they weren’t coming. & I honestly probably wouldn’t communicate with them anymore of course it’s different it was truly an emergency or if they at minimum reached out and said they wouldn’t be coming.

I would completely understand if there was an emergency. I know one was sick and an elderly couple wasn’t able to make it which is unlike them, so we aren’t upset about that. But I unfortunately the people who didn’t make it who are family members was because 1. They all of a sudden didn’t have a babysitter and husband was In the wedding 2. One came back from Vegas and felt sick and was bringing a date, who’s step dad was in the wedding 3. She was mad at her boyfriend who was a groomsman. 4. The last one works for my mom and her daughter had a cheer comp! I’m sorry but you always know of those way before hand. I was a cheerleader for years. It’s just frustrating.

FH and I have had this conversation already. If we have no shows that don't contact us with a reason, we will no longer have a relationship with them. We aren't even concerned about what the reasoning is we just hope that people will let us know. We may be the pettiest people ever but that's how we feel.

View Quoted Comment I hope it doesn’t happen to you!!