No rsvp follow-up wording?

You are going by save the dates and not a RSVP card in an invitation?

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Oops, I meant RSVPs. *fixed

But you've got about a month. I would wait a week for the last minute ones coming in and then send out something that says hey we are getting final head counts for the cater and haven't heard from you yet! Are you able to make it

Your RSVP date was too early. I would wait until time is closer that they are actually due to follow up. Maybe a week before.

So the problem with early RSVPs is sometimes people need less time to plan. If they say Yes too far in advanced they might forget and not show up. (1.5ish months ahead of time is a lot for some people especially local!) I would give them a couple more weeks before you follow up maybe 2 weeks before your final count is due. A nice way to followup is call and ask people how they are doing-- blah blah normal courteous convo-- then if the wedding comes up or something like "how are you"/"what are you up to" you can lead with I just want to confirm if you received our invitation. (Their response should sort of give you a hint about how you should respond)-- "We forgot to mail it" "Oh sorry Uncle Pete and I havn't figured out a our plans" "We would love to make it, but.." Anyway from there you can point blank ask so should I put you down for two? or I am sorry you are unable to make it!

Some might have sent it to you on the 25th and you might not have gotten it yet. Our RSVP is a month before the wedding because our vendors need headcounts up to 3 weeks in advance. Since you have almost a month before your numbers are due, I'd wait another 2 weeks then call or text everyone and say "Hey we never received your RSVP for the wedding, are you going to be planning on coming? We just need to know a final number to tell the caterer, thanks!"

Why is your RSVP a month before your numbers are due? It's too early of a date. I would just wait until a week before your numbers are due and begin to follow up then

Generally, you should ask for RSVPs a week before you have to give numbers to your venue. Being that it’s too late for that, since you still have another month, I’d wait another week to see what comes in. If you still have outstanding invitations, you should call and say “we haven’t heard back from you. We’d like to know if you are attending so we can finalize our numbers. I wouldn’t give an extension. If people couldn’t meet one deadline, they likely won’t meet another. There’s nothing unfriendly about asking a direct question. It’s certainly s possibility that an invitation or two got lost in the mail. My MOH, who lives 2 towns away from me, never got her invitation while a cousin in Israel got his.

Wait about a week for late mail then contact them " I'm reaching out because we haven't received your rsvp, and our date has passed. If you are unable to commit within 24 hours we will have to consider you a no, and will miss you at the wedding." If you have to leave a message, give them 24 hours to respond. Mo matter what the date, at some point people need to make a decision.

Yes, your rsvp date was a bit early relative to your wedding date, but at this point, that's irrelevant. They knew the date, they probably forgot, you need the names to have your seating chart done, time to move on.

We also had an early RSVP date because it made sense for us. We received half before the RSVP date, and we received a lot a week after they were due. We’re still waiting on a few, and we simply reached out after our RSVP date to ensure people had received their invitations and got our confirmations that way.

A friend of mine suggested employing the bridal party to help make phone calls to those who haven’t RSVPed. A simple hi we have received your RSVP yet, do you think you’ll be able to make it to so and so wedding at this time and place? Should suffice

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This is not the bridal parties job as they are not hosting this wedding, the bride and groom are. The only person who needs to call your own relatives and guests are your FH and you. Split it up by whose guest it is between the two of you when it gets closer to your numbers being due.

“Hey I’m just reaching out because I haven’t received a RSVP from you, if you like to attend, please respond to this message as soon as possible. If I don’t hear from you within 24 hours, I will assume you are not attending and will mark you down as declined.” To the point and effective.

Since you have some time before your final head count is due to your venue, I'd wait until probably the week before and then start contacting people. I'd wait to see if more RSVPs start to trickle in through the mail since the due date has now passed. I plan (have already reached out to family yesterday on the other side of the country as our RSVP due date is today) to say something like "Hey, just checking in to make sure you had received our wedding invitation as I haven't received your RSVP yet. Will you be able to attend our wedding on 09-16-18? Thanks!"

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Thank you I needed to see this because I am having the same challenges with the RSVP. So over the phone confirmation is the same as getting a returned RSVP?

View Quoted Comment In my opinion, after the deadline has passed, it is ok to take phone rsvp’s Just to confirm if they’re coming or not. Some ppl literally will forget to send them back and others are lazy so a reminder is needed. Either they respond that they are coming or they don’t and you move on without them.

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That sounds really nice, I think I'll use that.

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OK, thank you. Hopefully, I'll get more in the mail soon.

I just texted them and said "Hey! I didn't receive your RSVP back, will you be able to celebrate with us?! Please let me know by x!" a few responded then and there, only one told me she still wasn't 100% sure. It's easier than you think!

I get why your rsvp date is so early. Our final numbers need to be in by 9/29 so I have an rsvp date of 9/1 (as suggested by our planner). I plan on following up on 9/7 and giving the "extended date" of 9/15. That leaves a two week buffer for people to get ridiculous and add or remove as THEY see fit. *eyeroll* Anyway, this is what I plan on sending out on 9/7:

Hi there! We wanted to check in to make sure you received your invitation.

As a reminder, RSVPs were due on September 1st and we haven't received a

response from you yet.

We are looking forward to celebrating with you and hope you can make it, so

we extended our RSVP deadline to Saturday, September 15. Replies must be

received by then, so we can ensure that we have enought table settings.

For your convenience, you may RSVP using the following methods:

1) ONLINE: online through our website: www.---.com

2) MAIL: by mailing in the pre-stamped, self-addressed RSVP postcard

included in your invitation

3) PHONE: via phone at (xxx)xxxxxxx

Again, if we don't hear from you by Saturday, September 15, we will have to

mark you down as "not attending" and you will definitely be missed.

Thank you and we hope to hear back from you soon!