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Paige
Dedicated October 2015

No RSVP Cards - RSVP via Wedding Website - Is this Possible?

Paige, on June 19, 2014 at 6:02 PM Posted in Planning 0 32

My FH made the suggestion that instead of providing RSVP cards we should have guest RSVP on our wedding website as an effort to trim cost on stationary and postage. Is this possible? Has anyone else done this? If so how did you pull it off and what problems did you run into. Also; we are having an adults only reception, I'm worried that this will cause issues and confuse people. Please provide any advice and info you have regarding RSVP cards and/or weddding website RSVP portals. Thanks WW peeps!

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Latest activity by K'lyssa, on June 21, 2014 at 3:46 PM
  • Mrs Oliveira
    Devoted May 2015
    Mrs Oliveira ·
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    Its a modern way of doing it, but you have to consider you might have family that isn't in touch with their technology side and might have a hard time understanding to log on to a website. i really love the idea though. and it saves you money

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  • Kimberly
    VIP October 2014
    Kimberly ·
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    This is doable. You can use weddingwire to have guests RSVP on your wedding website with their RSVP tool. However, I was nervous that there may be glitches, etc. so instead I'm giving my guests an option to RSVP via Email. I created a free yahoo account with our *****@*****.***. I'm not sure you'll save on stationary however. I'm still printing RSVP cards to go with my invites that say "RSVP by email at:". But you can save on postage by not pre-stamping RSVP cards.

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  • Rebecca
    Super July 2014
    Rebecca ·
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    We had everyone RSVP via our wedding website. Our invited list was 24 people (all adults) so it was fairly easy. Even the older people managed to RSVP on the website or have someone else do it for them. We did have one person who did not RSVP at all but I think you get those people no matter what format the RSVP is in.

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  • Stephanie
    VIP August 2014
    Stephanie ·
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    From what I hear you will be chasing RSVPs no matter what so if you feel as if you have the majority of your guest list tech savvy enough to handle it - go for it if that is what you want!

    We did beautiful all-in-one invites from Forever Fiance and the RSVP is a postcard so it costs less to stamp and uses less paper as well.

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  • stevenandvictoria
    Dedicated January 2017
    stevenandvictoria ·
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    I agree with everyone here I think a wedding website is great for rsvp's but you might want to think about sending paper ones to the older generation who you think might have trouble with online.. Also poctcards are cheaper postage and a cute RSVP idea

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  • beachbride
    Expert October 2014
    beachbride ·
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    I'm considering doing a website/email/phone for rsvp. I know it's not traditional, but I've seen plenty of comments on here to make me feel like it will be successful! Smiley smile

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  • LisaKitty
    Expert August 2015
    LisaKitty ·
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    That is what I am planning to do - have guests RSVP via website, e-mail or phone. I'm bad with snail mail and clutter, and those little RSVP cards would just pile up around my house and make me cranky. Plus it will save quite a bit of money. Win-win in my book. Granted, 99% of my family and friends are very tech-savvy. This might not be an appropriate option for everyone.

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  • OfficiallyMrs.Bentley
    Super May 2014
    OfficiallyMrs.Bentley ·
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    I used Anrsvp. Com and it worked perfectly. You get to add the guest by name and household so there was no confusion as to who was and wasn't invited. U also gave the option to RSVP by phone for older guests or those who preferred that method. I didn't add email because I didn't want emails from unknown addresses going to spam. This website was great because it also allowed you to see by glance number of yes's, declines, outstanding rsvp's and it can be printed to use for your seating chart closer to your day.

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  • Monana
    VIP May 2015
    Monana ·
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    I don't think we will do RSVP cards.

    Website/Email/Phone is fine for me. I check my email multiple times a day anyways.

    When the time comes we might make a couple of exceptions but I can only think of one family that doesn't actively use computers.

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  • C
    Master June 2015
    ChampagneDream ·
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    I did this for a surprise birthday I was planning and it was a huge FAIL!!! I had to call about 90% of the people. I will be sending stamped envelopes because I don't want to fight with RSVPs again!

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  • kLo
    VIP August 2014
    kLo ·
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    I am doing the website, email and phone only, no RSVP cards. My RSVP date is June 30th, and so far I have received RSVP's from about 70%. The ones that I haven't received RSVPs from? Mostly, the friends who are in the bridal party, and the international guests. I have been really impressed with it so far though. I've had about 60% email, 40% use the website, and NO phone calls.

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  • Ready-2-B Her Mrs.
    Devoted August 2014
    Ready-2-B Her Mrs. ·
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    We are using RSVPify.com for the same reasons you mentioned. Our guests have until July 12th to respond, but we have received quite a few thus far with very few problems. We had a few older family members but talked to the younger ones to suggest that they help the older ones and do it for them if they plan to attend. I just refused to waste the money of stamping rsvp envelopes for people not to send them back anyway....

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  • C
    Dedicated September 2014
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    I think it depends on your guests. I went to a wedding recently that used anrsvp and as a guest, the RSVP process was slick! Bride said most people used it, but she had some she had to chase like any other RSVP. A great feature, it only allows you to RSVP for the people who you invited by name. The Guest can't add extra people and it is very clear who was invited.

    On the other hand, another bride I know did this on a self-created website and just built a form in for people to put their names, and yes or no. It didn't work very well for her because she had to track emails that were generated by the form and people could add whoever they wanted to the list (lots of plus ones, and dates - a few for 16 year old cousins!). The guest list also had a few older relatives who aren't internet savvy.

    From these two experiences if you do it I would say use a website tool that is intended for RSVP and allows you to track directly from your website. Include an insert card that says "Please RSVP before xx/xx/xx by going to ...(website). You may also call us at xxx-xxx-xxxx to RSVP." Some brides say - don't give out your phone number! Gasp! You have to talk to your guests?! Smiley smile I say, it's a nice way to connect with some of your guests for a moment and share their joy personally. It also gives your older guests the option to use technology that is more comfortable to them.

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  • Emily
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    We are doing the online RSVP, and no RSVP cards. We also provided a phone number for RSVP for guests who aren't comfortable with computers (but we don't know anyone who isn't - even my 93-year-old grandpa is computer savvy). So far, everyone has used the online RSVP tool, and it's worked wonderfully. It also prevents people from adding on guests (or their kids) because you have to type your guest list in and only the people who YOU add to the system are allowed to RSVP. There is no way for them to add people on. (Unless they put in it in the comments or something.)

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  • Tasia
    Devoted July 2014
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    We still did RSVP cards and just didn't put return postage on them. On the cards we wrote, "save a stamp, save a tree, RSVP online - it's free!" and we've had a 50/50 turn out for online vs. mail!

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  • Sunshine
    Super September 2015
    Sunshine ·
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    I did an online RSVP for a wedding last summer and it was so easy! I preferred it to mailing back a RSVP card.

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  • LadyMonk
    Master September 2014
    LadyMonk ·
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    Some people do this, but as others have said, does everyone have access to the internet? Does everyone know how to navigate a website (grandparents etc).

    Consider this: I made RSVP cards addressed to the invited guests, and left a space so that people could handwrite a response back (because I'm old fashioned?) -- what JOY this is bringing me from receiving the notes back! It was so worth the cost of the postage, and now I hvae a keepsake from our wedding from every guest, including those who unfortunately cannot make it. I will try to post a photo of my RSVP's later tonight to WW so stay posted!

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  • Anisea
    Master July 2014
    Anisea ·
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    Grandparents need a card RSVP, and anyone over age 60 who isnt super web savvy like us youngins are!!

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  • Brittany
    Super July 2014
    Brittany ·
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    I did website RSVPs but also provided an email address and phone #. I think it went reasonably well. The bulk of RSVPs were through the website, couple calls, couple emails, few Facebook messages or in person. Nobody seemed to balk at the idea of doing it this way. Still had to track people down, but, I think you have to do that no matter what.

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  • Mrs.T
    VIP February 2015
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    I live in a different country to 75% of my guests so I am doing email or online rsvps only.

    I sent out my STD by email and it worked great!! Got so many positive replies, and I have people emailing saying they will definitely be there already.

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