No response to my "will you be my bridesmaid"

Umm I'm not sure how someone could be a great guy if they are that jealous. That sounds like an abusive relationship to me ...

Uhh that sounds like a bad situation, I'm sorry for her

You'll think he's a great guy until she's dead. Sorry, FH's good friend was killed by her abusive bf, he was a 'great guy' too. Keep her close, you never know when/if she may ever reach out to you for help.

Were you talking to my sister by any chance? She got mad that I didn't ask her to be in my wedding (this was after she tried to destroy my relationship with FH and told me she wasn't happy for me). But now she is angry that I didn't ask her....

I understand the family drama and sympathize. But I do agree with PPs, maybe she felt offended that you mentioned her budget. I would try in a day or so to apologize.

Good luck!!!

That's rough. I'm so sorry. Hopefully she can figure things out with her husband and be able to support you.

I'm a bit sensitive too. And when someone says, hey wanna do this but I totally get if you can't and then gives me reasons why I can't just like you did I automatically assume they don't actually want me to do the thing they asked about. I know I have this weird bias and don't react to it, but it's always in my head that they probably don't actually want me to do it or otherwise they wouldn't have given me all those reasons I shouldn't. That could be what is happening here.

I would text to say that you hope everything is ok (she may have just seen someone get into an accident or something that has nothing to do with you that made her have to call back) and let her know that you are really hopeful she will be able to and are looking for her call back.

Dang, I mean, my FH gets a little jealous sometimes, but that's over the top.

I would just give her some time! It could be a weird coincidence that she really was in the middle of something and wants to call you back when she can fully focus

I'm so sorry, how tough for both of you. What if you had each member of the BP walk individually?

Um.. FH was just in a wedding that I wasn't even at and I didn't care at all.

That's effed up.

It is unfortunate that she is hesitant to participate due to her husband's jealously issue. No one wants to be the cause of issues in someone else's relationship regardless of whether they agree with the relationship.

Perhaps she would like to participate in another way? Like a reading during the ceremony?

And this is why you read the responses first -- otherwise I would have said something totally different. Sounds like she may need you more than you need her as your bridesmaid. What a difficult situation.

So sorry that she's afraid of her husband .... you did the right thing by listening and being supportive ... hope it works out for both of you ..

Well not to say you want to play into the husband situation, but she doesn't have to be escorted by a gm. You could do all the bm walk and then the gm or however it's really up to you. It may help to offer that option if you really want her in the wedding.