No registry

I dont' have a registry either. If it's bad ... whoops.

I think registries are helpful to guests who want to give a physical gift. It's nice to give people an option besides cash. Everybody knows cash is a welcome gift, not everybody feels comfortable giving it though.

Are you having a shower Krista?

We aren't doing a registry either, for the same reason. I did not think to put a paypal link on our wedding website. That's a good idea.

You don't have to have a registry, but you need to be ready to get a lot of random stuff that you don't want or need.

As far as the paypal link goes, that's not very tasteful. If nothing else, as a guest I would buy a nice card and put a check with it. I really don't think transferring money electronically is a gift-giving activity. But that's me :-)

We had a registry. Most people bought us gifts from the registry for the shower and then either gave us gift cards or cash for the wedding. As a guest I'd prefer the option of something other than cash, and usually get a gift card if there's no registry. It'd be nice if I knew what store you'd like it for.

Also, we were living together before, but used this opportunity to upgrade some stuff. Now, instead of the cheap comforter and duvet cover we had we have really nice ones and we're actually sleeping better. Maybe there are some things you'd like to upgrade?

I agree with Mrs S about the paypal thing. I would not do that.

I asked about the shower b/c I think if someone's throwing you a shower, you should register. Unless your host/hostesses are throwing a spice/recipe/stock the bar shower or something.

If you want to get money instead of gifts, the traditional way to do it is not to have a registry and to tell anyone who asks, "We really have all the household things we need, but are saving for [a house, a baby, or some other savings goal]." At that point, you don't need to have a honeymoon or other cash registry; people will give you checks or cash. However, as others have suggested, don't have a shower unless you have at least a small registry.

Yeah I don't plan on having a registry for the same reason and I will make sure to let everyone know this so I don't end up with stuff that's not really needed

FH and I already live together and are both in our 30s as well but like Anne Marie, we are registering for things that will be an upgrade to some of the cheaper stuff we already have. If you are hoping to get money, I would say just don't register and guests will find out from word of mouth that you are trying to save up. Or maybe you could at least register for something like honeyfund.

I've seen couples put "No gift boxes please" on the invite or wedding website. Also for people who are already in established homes asking people to give money to their favorite charity. I always opt for the money route with a nice card to couples though and sending it electronically just seems impersonal. Not having a registry isn't bad, some people just like the option.

We decided against a registry also.. We have been living together for 6 yrs & have owned our home for 2 yrs, so we dont really need anything.. I understand where you're coming from

I didn't do a registry. We have been together 6 years, have lived together 4 of those years, and every single guest, except two, had to travel across the country for our wedding. So I didn't have the heart or nerve to ask for anything, gift or money. Our gift was everyone spending so much to come in the first place. A lot of people disagree with it, but I don't regret skipping a registry for a second.

I think it's fine. You'll probably end up getting a lot of cash (which isn't so bad) and some random things.