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Devoted December 2011

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Shay, on September 6, 2011 at 12:18 PM

We decided not to have a reception and instead, go out to eat with two other couples who are our best friends. EVERYONE is trying to tell us we NEED to have a reception, that it is not fair that they don't get to celebrate with us. We don't have money to hire people to help do a reception, so we were thinking that we were being kind by skipping it and not having to ask for help from people we can't pay but the feedback we are getting is nobody agrees. My mom asked a family friend to make us a wedding cake (shes a professional) and she wants to do it as a gift, but that means inviting her and her family (people I haven't talk to in 10 years) to the wedding plus where can have the cake if we don't have a reception? I did suggest maybe she can just make a mini cake for us to bring home if it is really going to hurt her feelings not to make us one. Is it really that big of a deal not to have a reception? Maybe there are things the reception represents that I'm not aware of?

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Dedicated December 2011
Karen · on September 6, 2011 at 5:15 PM
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I love how Andrea P. worded the reception invite for the potluck. A couple from our church recently did a potluck reception and it turned out great. They asked that in lieu of gifts if everyone would bring a dish to share. She is in choir, so the choir director helped organize who whould bring what and it would out really great!!!

The people that are important to you will be happy to bring a dish and fellowship to celebrate your union as husband and wife.
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Just Said Yes March 2012
Carrie · on January 23, 2012 at 8:24 AM
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I live near Reno, NV. My FH and I are getting married at a really pretty chapel that can accomodate our amount of guests. We are only inviting our closest friends and family which is about 100 people. The things that we want most is low and/or no stress, so we are not having a reception either. We do not want to spend the money to feed everyone. We'd rather spend it on our attire, hair, make-up, photos, ceremony, honeymoon, etc. Some of our friends suggested to do a potluck, but we still have the stress and money issues of renting a venue that allows outside food, and then figuring out who's gonna bring what. Who's gonna be setting up the reception hall and tending to the food, and who's gonna do clean up afterwards, etc, etc etc. . . . . . What a headache! . . . . .
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Just Said Yes March 2012
Carrie · on January 23, 2012 at 9:03 AM
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. . . . My friends and family are not going to be my cooks or servants! And cooking hundreds of brownies and cupcakes the night before my wedding?! That's the last thing that I'd want to be doing. Plus, I refuse to be stuck cleaning up the reception space in my wedding dress. That's dumb!

I think that the ceremony should be far more important than the reception. So, we are having a gorgeous ceremony with a really nice photography session. And, afterwards, each guest will get an individually packaged gourmet cupcake along with an individual bottle of sparkling cider and a personalized bookmark with a sweet thank you poem on it. then, we are changing into different clothes and are going out to a restaurant with our wedding party for dinner (we are paying for them) and then anyone else who wants to come hang out with us, can. Then, we are all going out to a club for dancing and drinks. We, do not drink but most of our friends do. I think that that's more than enough.
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Just Said Yes August 2012
BlondeNeene · on July 21, 2012 at 7:46 PM
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We are getting married August 12, 2012 and we are having a ceremony but no reception because we cant afford it. We tried to come up with the money for a hall and have a pot luck but we still couldn't afford the cost, So instead of a reception we are inviting our guests to accompany us to the restaurant where we had our first date! Our families told us the day is about our love for each other and love the idea of going to a restaurant.
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