No plus one's

Lindsay, you don't have to give a truly single guest a plus one. It is a nice gesture, but not required.

If you are doing inner envelopes, write out everyone's name.

I only put the peoples names who were invited. But people will assume. For example I invited my cousin and his girlfriend and only put their names. I got a 4 yes back cause they assumed her kids were invited too. So just keep that in mind

A plus one is given a truly single guest who is allowed to bring someone (a friend or anyone really). But it is not necessary to give plus ones. However, if a person considers themselves to be in a relationship, then you must invite their SO. A couple is a social unit and cannot be split up; to not do so is one of the rudest things you can do. You are going to offend and hurt people and lose friends.

We tried to make it clear on the addressed envelope. If the person didn't have a SO then we addressed it to only them. A couple of people asked us if they could bring a date, but we politely said no. We were consistent too. That's the key.

I did give everyone a plus one but I liked the _ seats have been reserved thing....it saved me from just writing "and guest" on the outside of all my envelopes. It would have written it if I had inner envelopes but that was an added expensive I didn't want so the seat numbers were easie e

I'm so sad for your guests in relationships who have to attend alone.

It sucks watching couples slow dance.

I agree with sunshine. FH and I dated for 3 months long distance before he decided to mce across te country for me. I knew id be with him forever. No one should be able to judge how serious someone else's relationship is.

About 6 months before the wedding, we asked people for their postal addresses and the names of their SOs. (That meant that any SO invited had to have been in a relationship for at least 6 months, and avoided the issue of which ones were "serious" relationships.) We then addressed the invitation only to the person(s) invited, by name (no "and guest"). We had online-only RSVPs. They were set up in such a way that it read more or less like:

Jane Smith

☐ will attend ☐ will not attend.

Entree desired: ☐ lobster ☐ filet mignon ☐ salmon ☐ crab cakes

Accommodations needed (check one or both if applicable): ☐ Monday night ☐ Tuesday night

John Jones

☐ will attend ☐ will not attend.

Entree desired: ☐ lobster ☐ filet mignon ☐ salmon ☐ crab cakes

Accommodations needed (check one or both if applicable): ☐ Monday night ☐ Tuesday night

Thus, there was simply no way for anyone to RSVP for anyone other than those invited.

I wrote their names directly on the response card. Some people texted me asking if they could bring a date and I simply responded "no."

Technically those in long Term relationships arent plus ones, theyre invitees. Address the invite to both of them! I went the Route of "we have reserved ----- seats in your Honor"

I've never heard of this "__ seats reserved." I'm curious now if this is a regional thing?

Megan, I don't think it's a regional thing. A lot of the ladies doing it live all over the country.

However, I think it's a newer thing. Back in the day people would do outer envelopes with the address then on the inner envelope write everyone invited....such as and guest....

Or when my parents got married 25 years ago it was completely normal to expect everyone got a plus one...

I think now that people arnt using inner envelopes as frequently and from what I have seen from posting here most people are not allowed to bring a guest unless in a relationship....the _ seats thing has been used.

Anyone who is in a relationship should be invited with their significant other by name. And no, they shouldn't have to have a ring to be invited with their partner, Lilly. That's is one of the rudest "requirements" I think I've ever heard in wedding planning. You know that not every couple chooses to get married, right? If people are living together, they're in a committed relationship and need to be invited together - ring or no ring. You should not be judging somone's relationship on a piece of jewelery!

Interesting... was planning on doing the '__ number of seats reserved' but I like what someone suggested with the '___ out of ___ attending' and '___ out of ___ will celebrate from afar' idea.

I'll have to play with it, but essentially for us, the only "plus 1s" are SOs/spouses. But if they are an SO or spouse, high chance we know them well and/or are good friends, not considering them a plus one.

We are doing the "__ seats reserved". We wanted to exclude children all together, but due to immediate family having kids all ages, we couldn't. This way, we can cut out as many kids as we want.

I've never heard of the "no ring" policy. My FH were living together when he (only he) was invited to a friends wedding in a different state. I have never meet the friend so it didn't bother me. I think every situation is different, whether it's on the relationship side or on the guest list side.

Later, my FH was told I could come (maybe a recount was done?) and we still weren't engaged at the time.

Again, if people don't like it, they dont have to come. Im not about to invite people we dont even know to our wedding. Fh and I have lived together and been invited to several l weddings separately- its not a big deal and we were never offended. I don't consider us a social unit, we are two individual people, with our own interests and friends. We are not children who need an escort.

If I am aware that they are in a committed relationship, I'm giving them a plus one. If I know the person, I put their name on the invite, if I don't know the significant other, I just put 'and guest' on the envelope, and I'm using the WW rsvp so they can't really add more people, even if they wanted too :o)