No plus one's

On the rsvp there is a area i put reading: " ____ seat[s] reserved" & ill be the one to put 1 or two on that line. if there is an issue, i guess ill get a decline. i over-invited anyway lol

I did what Birtt Morgan did.

I am the only one on WW (I have concluded) but I HATE the wording "__ seats reserved". It sounds too frank to me to be polite (my opinion). Instead, I decided to include everyone's name on the RSVP card who was being invited. Yes, it took time, but I'm so happy how it turned out. It makes people feel honoured to be invited, because it's like having a little personalized card just to them.

Ahhhh thank you!!

For my wedding, the only people getting "guests" are those married, engaged or living together and I included both people's name on the address of the invitation. There are a few people that I am inviting a plus one for and for those I am putting guest name and guest (so something like Bob Smith and guest) on the address of the invitation.

We did plus 1 for married, engaged or "committed". For couples that were in long-term relationships but were not married/engaged, we just couldn't discriminate. (Ex: Cousin has been with the same SO for 5 years... the SO is invited.)

We specifically listed people on the invites (never, ever "and guest").

LadyMonk, I'm putting the person or persons name on the envelope. I have a few friends who are assuming they are bringing someone with them, even though I made it clear that they cant, so in the end i had to do the reserved seat thing. Also, there is 60 kids on his side, I'm not inviting kids so i want to put it out there for that reason as well.

I did

___ out of ___ attending

___ out of ___ will celebrate from afar

Like LadyMonk, I don't like the reserved wording either, I felt like my way flowed a little better. I will also be putting the names down.

I also am not a huge fan of the "__ seats reserved", but I see why people do it. I plan on simply writing the names of the people invited on the RSVP and allowing them to fill in the number of those listed who will attend.

I also did the _seats reserved in your honor. I added adult only reception to follow. And on our website i added that we cannot accept amy requests for children or extra guests.

So far, our no ring, no bring policy hasnt been bitched about too much. At least not to our faces. If people don't like it, they dont have to come. We did exclude some living together couples who were not engaged. There had to be a cutting point and for us it was the ring.. Unless we were also close to the SO and they would be invited anyway.

So for those adding the names to the RSVP card are you just handwriting on where the m is?

If I handwrite it I can have her take out the line that says nymber of guests

I'm not a fan of the "seats reserved" thing either. We sent out 201 invitations. Out of all of the people who responded yes, only one single guest filled in a plus one. He's a dick, though, so we weren't surprised.

So glad you asked this question because I've been wondering the same thing. I'm thinking about getting RSVP postcards printed through vistaprint, but that means I could put actual names on them, unless I hand write them. I'm thinking about doing the seats thing.

Lol!!! I really did think I was the only one who didn't like that phrase. I did also put the invited people's names on the envelopes in addition to the RSVP's.

Madeline -- That's pretty darn awesome to only get 1 rude person out of 201 invitations!!!

I really didn't even think about this until now I totally forgot and after the stories I have read on here about people practically inviting themselves I didn't want to leave anything to chance lol

I already had someone kinda inviting themselves, not to me directly but to my sister I was like ahhh I didn't ask him because I am not inviting him!

Can't help you.. Everyone received a plus one at mine..

Interesting, I've put on the invitations Adults only and also on it I've put Mr & Mrs . I did not put Mr & Mrs and Family, because I don't want all there teens and kids to attend. My family is an exemption some are coming out in my wedding. But coworkers and church members that have kids living with them and grandkids. I wouldn't want them to attend. I wouldn't want a hurdle of people in my reception. And I want simpleness. I only get along with my coworkers and the church members that I've invited not there entire families. That's why I've put Adults Only, and Mr & Mrs.. I've should of put how many could attend per family but I've thought of it yesterday..

Yes, I am handwriting the names of the allowed guests on the line.

Here's how I see it: the people who are going to be pushy will be that way regardless of how you word your response cards. Why irk your polite guests when you don't have to?

LadyMonk, I was so (pleasantly) surprised! Based on the stories I've read here, I thought the response situation was going to be horrendous.

Maybe I'm just outta touch with the way things are done now; but I have always been under the impression that any guest you invite to your wedding you should expect a +1. That said; the way I am doing my invites will be simple. I'll address the invite to the head of household & family; the RSVP will account for any dates my single friends and family may wish to bring. I've been in many weddings, and a guest at many more; never have I been told no +1.