No plus one

You are wrong...there are no exceptions to be made. What you are comfortable with doesn't matter. People will side-eye the hell out of you for judging their relationship while celebrating yours. YOU are wrong here.

Ok...so Im sending out invitations this weekend. And if September 3rd (2 weeks before the wedding) someone calls and says "Hey I wanna bring my new gf/bf.", I should change my venue count and seating chart for them?

@Dani - do you have that many single people at your wedding that you can't just give them a plus right now? Or is it because you don't want people you don't know at your wedding?

I have to agree with MsDani here too. If you're in a relationship with one of the people invited to my wedding then I've probably met you or heard about you and you will be invited. If sometime between now and when invites go out around next April, one of the singles on the guest list enters into a relationship with someone, then yes, their significant other will also be invited. No singles are getting plus ones. I want to keep my guest list small to cut costs, also I want it to be a celebration of FH and I's marriage with our closest family and friends, and the rando person that single cousin has been casually seeing for two weeks doesn't belong there.

Why are you sending out your invites so early? And yes, if someone tells you, you missed their significant other, you fit them in. FFS, this isn't hard.

If your wedding is mid-September, the earliest you should be sending out your invites is the middle of July.

ETA: All you judgy people, were you not in the beginning of a relationship with the person you are going to marry once? How would you have felt if they were excluded because someone didn't scale your relationship "serious enough".

@Gin - What if that single person doesn't know anyone at the wedding and everyone is coupled up? Don't you think they'll be just a tad uncomfortable?

@Gym...I don't have that many and I called everyone whom I was unsure about their relationship status. I added their SO as a guest. For those who were single at that time...I have since called again.

@Jessie...Im addressing this weekend because of scheduling and will be sending the week after because 75% of my guests are OOT. I know that I am early.

I have asked and asked again about SOs. And mosts of my guests are not single. And I repeat...the ones who will ask are in and out of relationships weekly. I don't want the rando of the week there.

Once invites are out, these things will be handled on a case by case basis. But I have family trying to bring side pieces because their wife "may not be acting right that week."

@Pamela, can I just say how much I appreciate that you stated the temp of the meat on the rsvp? I've never seen that and that definitely would help someone like me, who likes their meat super bloody, decide on what to eat and not be disappointed with it. Super thoughtful!

Hypothetical Question for everyone: What if when you mail the invites the person is single, and then when the wedding day rolls around the have a significant other?

ETA: Nevermind I saw page 2 has responses to my very question. I guess, if the wedding was large every single would get a +1 regardless, but since I'd originally planned for 35 people, my 3 singles (all friends since grammar school, still in constant touch) would be fine coming alone so they weren't going to get plus ones.

@BoozyBaker...if I have the room...maybe. But it would be against etiquette for someone to ask to bring a guest when they have only been in a relationship for 2 months...

It's against etiquette for you to not invite the person someone has been seeing for two months and the other person considers their significant other. It's not against etiquette for them to point out your mistake and give you the opportunity to rectify it. I suggest a good reading of Miss Manners.

MsDani313...I agree whole heartedly. Thanks for the input