No plus one

More info is needed here.

A plus one is for a single person.

A person who has a significant other, fiancé, or husband/wife is part of a social unit. They are invited together and this is not considered a plus one.

If they are over 18, you don't.

If they are in a relationship, it's not a plus one, but you would be inviting them as a couple.

I don't believe that every guest over 18 required a plus one, however anyone in a relationship is invited as a social unit. Plus ones are for single people, as PP pointed out.

Indicate on the RSVP how many seats are reserved and address the invite to those who are invited. If they change that number then you'll have to make a phone call, other wise don't tell anyone outright. They'll figure it out when the invite comes.

I've seen adding in "we have reserved 1 (or 2, etc) seat for you at our wedding/reception" suggested before.

If you're asking how to address your invitations to indicate that your single friend, Bob, is invited without a plus one, only write Bob's name on the envelope.

If Bob is in a relationship, engaged, or married, Bob should be invited with his significant other. In this case, Bob and his SO are a social unit and they need to be invited as a couple. Bob's SO should be invited by name (don't write "Bob and guest).

Put the number of seats reserved on the RSVP card.

Also, as others have said, anyone in a relationship should be invited with their SOs by name.

When we made up our guest list, I was so against "and guest". I wanted a name to be on the invitation because otherwise people can bring literally anyone they want. Ultimately people don't follow rules anyway.

Couples who were invited as Mr. and Mrs. Bob, ended up RSVPing for BOB and their cousin. People who didn't get a plus one, asked if they could have one. Figure out what works best for you--and stick to it, and don't change your mind.

If this is a question on how to address an invitation, I agree with PP that significant others must be invited by name. If you're not giving your guests a plus one, then simply address the invitation with the guest's name only and leave the and Guest out - ie. Ms. Jane Smith or Mr. John Doe.

If this is in response to a guest RSVP'ing for an additional person not invited or inquiring about bringing someone not invited, then you can simply say something along the lines of unfortunately due to venue capacity/budget constraints, we are unable to extend an invitation to your plus one. We hope you can still attend and celebrate with us.

Thank you ladies

This is how our RSVP cards look

@Pamela love your RSVP card! And I agree that is the best way to do it without being rude.

I put the names of who was invited on the invitation envelope. Nobody got a plus one. We'll see how that works when I get the RSVPs back...

Thank you Pamela....I love that!

I agree with PPs. Only my three 70+ year old aunts are getting a plus one.

Plus one to me is a random person. Meaning single cousin Linda wants to bring a random friend. If someone is in a relationship their SO is an invited guest and their name is on the invitation. I checked in with everyone to see if they were in a relationship if I was unsure.

And I know that everyone won't agree with me but unless I have met the person before or you will be in a relationship for 6 months by the wedding...your new boo is not invited.

@MsDani - THAT is ridiculous. If someone is in a relationship, no matter the time, they are to be invited TOGETHER.

FH and I were invited to my friend's wedding after only dating for a couple of months. These were the same friends who had their first date at another friend's wedding 3 years previous. Who the hell are you to judge people's relationships?

Address the envelope to the person invited and add on the RSVP card that you have reserved one seat in their honor. Our invitations are more casual so the wording is __ out of 1 will attend.

And as others have said spouses, boyfriend/girlfriends, significant others, and partners aren't considered plus ones and people typically expect to be able to bring them.

I know my guests very well. And the ones who are complaining about not being able to bring their new boo are the same ones who will go through three new boos between now and September.

Am I being intolerable about it? No. If I've met the person and because invitations are not out I can and will make an exception. But we are currently 25 people over the fire code so...no I won't be changing the guest count with 93 days to go for cousin Pookie who has been dating Sheila for 2 weeks prior to the wedding.

I agree with MsDani. For my wedding only friends/family that are in a relationship for over a year, engaged, living-together, or married would be invited with their partner (whose name would also be on the envelope as well as on the rsvp card). Not one of my single friends/family regardless of being in the wedding party or traveling (since the majority is doing that anyways) is getting a plus one. And I should mention they are fine with it, especially my best friends who agree with my views.

You are still wrong and judgmental. I hope no one has ever judged your relationship the way you callously judge the people you claim are close to's relationships.

ETA: I've never met my FMIL's BF, but guess what? He's getting an invite.

I would not have asked ( and did not) anyone to bring FH anywhere with me early in our relationship especially to a wedding. I went to a wedding one month into our relationship and did not ask to bring him.

And as I said I will make exceptions...for some. Some of my family thinks that wedding are the perfect time to drag a random around. My wedding on my dime is not that time.