No plus 1 invitation and heart broken

If its a DW I agree you should be given a plus one. You shouldn't have to travel alone. How far are you talking?

ETA; (regardless of whether its a DW you should still get one)

Wow that sucks. I'm sorry. For a DW everyone should automatically get a plus one considering its usually a vacation for the guests as well. I'd ask the MOB (if you're close) and not the bride or groom.

I have an aunt who is my godmother and has helped with the wedding and I just invited her. She has her whole family there and she isn't in a relationship. MOB can usually invite whoever they want so that isn't a good comparison. I would just ask if you could bring your friend. Then if they say no be upset. I would never even think of adding a plus 1 for my aunt. Talk to them if you are that close.

Talk to them. I'm not into auto plus ones for everyone, but it's standard etiquette for the bridal party.

And it's honestly, nothing to change your will over.....

I would at least mention it to them..... in my family my 2 widowed aunts don't get plus ones - it would be considered rude to the rest of the family - but if they wanted one i would hope they would speak up.....

I think it's a bit extreme to change your will over something you are upset about without discussing it with the people you are upset with. Always your right/prerogative, but I think you should definitely talk to them.

It could have been an oversight. Your nephew may have asked your niece, "Hey, did you give aunt a plus one?" "No, and she didn't ask for one so she must not have wanted one."

You can't compare it to their mom getting a plus one. Moms typically get to bring anyone they want to. They were both destination weddings? I'm not giving my single aunts, uncles, or cousins plus ones- they'll know plenty of family members there. I'm giving my single friends plus ones. ETA: you should definitely talk to the MOB or the couple before doing something that drastic. I mean really? They probably don't even know you want one if you've never mentioned it.

Talk to them. You're overreacting, definitely, but it's ok to ask if you can bring someone with you since you would need to travel. Your niece and nephew probably thought it would be fine to attend solo since you would have other family there.

If you're that upset, say something. Nothing to change your will over.

But, won't you be married by then? If so, you should definitely get a plus one.

Does anyone smell something fishy?

I agree you should get one, but I also wouldn't take it so personally. They may just not know what to do. Weddings are complicated! I'm sure they don't want you to feel bad. If you are really close, just ask if you can bring someone! I don't think it's rude at all to ask, especially considering you are traveling.

@Nancy - I think that wedding date may be the date of the nephew's wedding, since she's already received the invitation.

OP - I'll echo previous posters; can you bring this up in casual conversation with the MOB or your nephew? They may not realize that you'd like to bring someone along and might happy to include him.

Personally I don't think a plus one should be whoever you feel like bringing. I think it should be reserved for a SO.

I also think it's incredibly petty that you want to take your family members off a will because of this. I mean... really? You have no idea what their reasoning is. I'm sure it's not personal or meant to offend you.

Changing your will is a big overreaction to this. I understand feeling hurt or miffed, but think you're taking it a little far if you're really considering such a relationship-ender (they'll probably find out before you're gone and therefore be really upset as well). My dad threw around "disowned" "out of the will" and all other types of emotional blackmail my entire life. When he did die, I was shocked he had still included me because based on his comments, I thought our relationship was over and therefore didn't try to have anything with him for the last 7 years.

Don't make promises when you're happy, and don't make decisions when you're angry.

As much as you have supported them financially, you cannot compare yourself to the MOB. You're not her. I probably wouldn't have thought to give a single aunt or uncle a plus one because you will have the entire family to socialize with. If you were in a relationship and had not been given a plus one, I think you'd have a better reason to be upset. It can't hurt to ask if you can bring your friend, but honestly, it's not the end of the world if they say no and you shouldn't change your will over it. I guess it's true, weddings can bring out the worst in people.

I think you should say something. Don't come upset tho just say hey I would really like to bring Jim to your wedding and I would like to be able to bring someone as a plus one. Then listen to their reason if they say no.

I have some aunts that are widowed or single that I was not going to be including a guest on their invite. It's mostly because I assume they wouldn't bring anyone and the "and guest" would be a weird reminder that they are alone. You now have me rethinking that. I would just talk to your family.