No one RSVPs anymore?!

& I don't mean they're saying "hey btw I'm coming to your wedding" They say things like "I bought a new dress for your wedding!" "I can't wait until your wedding."

The only ones who have RSVP'd are elderly people who I never even expected would. 20 something year olds are on their phones constantly.. I don't see why they can't go to our website and just click they're going? I'm stressed to the stinking max at 16 days to go!

When is your RSVP deadline?

Tomorrow is my deadline

If there's an online option, the young folks really ought to hop your website to RSVP. I would be annoyed too. Then you have to chase them for details that you already asked for...

I would start contacting those people then. You said 4 have sent their RSVP, how many did you invite? Also speaking as a "young folk" I do think it's extremely rude not to RSVP. I'm not sure what the issue is with your guests unfortunately.

I can see now why "those" people post on facebook the absolutely annoying "GET YOUR RSVPS IN" posts. If I didn't have SO many not RSVPing I would do the "no rsvp..no seat". But I don't suppose that would work for having only 4 actually respond lol

People suck. I had a few that I told four times to send the RSVP. I said I had a method and messing with it would fuck me up. By then I was kind of moody so I felt bad but I got results from all but 1 person who Refused to send the RSVP back saying no.

We invited 100 people. I don't know why none have rsvp but yet can tell me in person they got new outfits for my wedding. I had one person text me today saying her family(yes, HER FAMILY) was coming in and they can't wait for my wedding ... Ummm..

Nope, I think it's necessary to follow up. You never know if there was an issue with the post office or if someone simply put the card in their purse and forgot to drop it off! It's worth it to make those phone calls rather than have any confusion and not have the appropriate headcount for your venue.

I guess I'll start going down my list then Grr.

I'd be afraid the paper cards were getting lost in the mail. 4 out of 100? That's ridiculous.

I don't think their location has anything to do with it. I am from the south and it is customary as it would be in any location to RSVP.

Now with your guest being younger, it might be their first wedding to be invited to so they aren't educated on proper RSVP etiquette. Send out a message or make some phone calls to remind everyone the date you need an answer by and that they need to send the card in or go online to make an official response.

Also, as annoying as it might be, if you have confirmation they are coming, you can mark them yourself on the guest list tool as coming.

The rsvp process sounds so stressful.. I'm planning to have ppl rsvp through our website and by directly contacting FH and I. And it's also rude to have ppl you invited invite other ppl that you don't know, *sigh*

Again... as a "young" person I don't think age is an excuse at all. An RSVP card literally says RSVP by this date, it's clear cut instructions. If a person can't figure it out, then they are not "young" they are just dumb.

Agree with RaeGin. It seems too coincidental that 4 out of 100 responded? Are you positive they all received the invitation?

Yes, positive! I've had several snap chat me the invitation telling me "look what I got!" I should send them a picture of an RSVP card and say "look what I don't got..!" Oh goodness. Let me get a whole bottle of wine out for tonight.

Still a small possibility that paper RSVP cards are getting lost in the mail, but at least you know they received the invites.

Ugh... sorry this is such a headache.

We had the same problem. We sent pre-addressed stamped envelopes for our guests to RSVP and a lot of people did not use them. My aunt even sent my dad a facebook message to say she wasn't coming.

Maybe send out texts or call the ones that haven't rsvp yet. You can text them your website link to rsvp or just make a list and check off who says yes?? Maybe just send out a friendly reminder text to the young ones that says, "remember tomorrow is the rsvp deadline, please let us know if you'll be attending our wedding " then put the link and let them know they can rsvp there. I know it's not really a traditional way to get responses but if you're dealing with younger people that might be what they need to remember to rsvp.