No one likes my dress options? 😩

Hello Rosalinda: You can go dress shopping alone (or with your fiancé, this situation is more common than you think!).

My WF decided to go alone for the same reason: A very opinionated & judgmental family, especially her mom, (she would have tried to push her daughter towards apoofy ballgown (the only style she doesn't like!). She didn't even bring her MOH.

Going alone is the best way to avoid unwanted opinions, no one can change your mind, you can freely pick 'the one', so: no dress regret!

There are no rules or laws saying you have to bring someone to your bridal appointment(s).

View Quoted Comment Thank you so much. I've always heard you gave to involve your party, mom, and MIL. Thank you fir the advice !

View Quoted Comment Thank you. I appreciate the advice

View Quoted Comment Thabk you. I just dont want anyone to be unhappy but i feel they should just want what I want. Appreciate the advice!

View Quoted Comment I might look into that. It would be great to incorporate what they like and what i want. Thank you so much!

View Quoted Comment Aw thats awful! Thank you so much for telling me this. Hopefully i can use it to open my families eyes!

View Quoted Comment We want to pay for it all ourselves but coming from a Hispanic household they involve themselves out of tradition.

View Quoted Comment Out of tradition or not: if you want to pay for everything, go for it!
You have the right to decline their money if they offer to contribute. especially because you know they are opinionated ant they will want to get their way.
But I've read other discussions from latinas, they always mention that in hispanic countries, the groom pays for everything . So: why do your family members want to be involved?

Trying to please them is a good thing ... when you don't please them at the expense of your feelings.

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Bringing the MIL is a new trend, it started because of TV shows (especially say yes to the dress). It wasn't even a thing before.

Involving your WP and mom is a tradition ... not a requirement.

Going alone (or with FH) doesn't make a marriage unvalid!

You don't have to wear a white dress, you don't even have to wear a dress at all, you don't have to be given away by dad if you don't want this and so on ...

Inviting other people to your appointments is nice .... when they are supportive, they respect your wishes about the styles you want/don't want don't try to change your mind, but when you know they are pushy and opinionated ...

If you think your MOH,bridesmaids wouldn't annoy you and would only be supportive of your choices, of course: invite them. If you're unsure ...

View Quoted Comment Ok I can understand the cultural pressure, but at the end of the day it is a choice. They cannot force you to accept money from them. It's important to establish and maintain healthy boundaries.

I am all for getting the dress that you personally want.

Do consider this:
-Maybe your entourage is trying to give you confidence in your body and in yourself to try something new.
-A mermaid silhouette is pretty extreme. Maybe a happy medium is a fit and flare or a trumpet silhouette.
-Consider a "cool down" period from this shopping experience. Wait at least a good 2-3 weeks.
-Revisit pictures of the dresses you were in (if applicable). Have some of your feelings changed?
-Go shopping by yourself. It is ok if you want to go back to some of the places you went to before. Just kindly tell your stylist that you were feeling overwhelmed, and want a completely different shopping experience. Have lots of pictures taken, especially under the store lighting and natural lighting.
-Revisit the pictures you took after a few days, and take note of how you feel. If you decided on a dress, great! If not...
-Go for a follow-up appointment with 1-2 of your most trusted people who you know will keep your style and interests first. Consider bringing someone from your bridal party so that they can try on BM dresses with you, and you can get a better feel for what you will look like on that day.

It’s your wedding do what makes you feel pretty for your day. As long as you and your husband is happy then so be it.

CONGRATULATIONS, you made it through what probably is the 2nd worst part of picking out your dress...THE OPINION OF OTHERS. They have had their chance to say what they had on their minds and hearts; NOW GO GET THE DRESS you want to wear and take memorable photos with a BEAUTIFUL smile on your face, a clear mind, and a heart filled with joy.

I think if you already know what you love anyone else’s “vision” of your wedding isn't so important. Like for me I really relied on what everyone else liked. And I’ll tell you right now I’m still not super happy about my gown.

Wear what you want to wear. No one is going to say anything to you on your day other than you look beautiful. Its YOUR wedding not theirs! You have to look at those pics and be happy NOT your family.