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No one is excited for my big day

Sulema, on October 27, 2019 at 12:24 AM Posted in Community Conversations 0 9

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I’ve been feeling down lately and somewhat depress. I am really exited about getting married and to plan my dream wedding. Unfortunately every time I bring it up no one really hears me. I feel somewhat alone in this. I thought my mom would be a little bit more enthusiastic about it but she is not. She never wants to talk about me getting married or any plans. When I finally bring things up she gives me short answers or doesn’t pay me any mind. I just feel really alone in this. My fiancé works all the time and it’s hard to shop for venues or even really discuss any plans. I am starting to change my vision and just have a simple back yard wedding. I am just afraid I will look back and regret it. I am also planning on taking a break from planning and organizing things but I am afraid the choices will be limited when it comes does to the date. I am to the point where I am willing to risk it and take a break until next year. I am planning on getting married in November 2020. Does anyone else feel alone?

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Devoted December 2019
Stefanie · on October 27, 2019 at 12:34 AM
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My mom was a little the same way at first, once we got deep into wedding planning she got more involved and now that it’s just a month away she is more involved than ever! Maybe she’ll feel more involved once she sees you’re in the middle of planning!
In my opinion if you want a wedding a certain way do it like that, you’ll Probably regret it later if you chose to do something else that you were not crazy about just because of everyone else. It’s your day to enjoy ❤️
About vendor I would just make sure to book someone I know would be important for me, for example once I had my venue I just made sure to book the photographer and then I just chilled for a bit
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Pirate & 60s Bride · on October 27, 2019 at 12:38 AM
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Oh no! It’s true though nobody is as excited about your wedding as you are. It would have bothered me though if my hubby wasn’t excited. 😔 After I started planning by myself I told him I was lonely and wanted it to be our wedding story. Over a bottle of wine we brainstormed ideas and then he was a 50/50 partner. Try chatting with yours and expressing how you feel.
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Caitlin · on October 27, 2019 at 1:33 AM
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My family was not as excited as I wanted/expected either. I sympathize. But you should have the wedding you want. Don't give up just because no one is excited! Go shine your light!
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Michelle · on October 27, 2019 at 8:51 AM
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I'm really sorry that you're going through this. I can only say that this is your special moment and you should hold onto that special feeling regardless of how those around you are feeling. You deserve the wedding you planned. Can you hire a planner? That way it'll just be you two having all the fun. Maybe some co-workers? Or come to Wedding Wire and talk all your plans with us!!! I hope things get better for you dear!
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Cyndy · on October 27, 2019 at 9:21 AM
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I’m sorry you’re feeling this way. Unfortunately people aren’t always as excited as we are but your mom should be more excited so I understand how you must feel. It’s YOUR day so do what makes you happy. Find a close friend to help you and only involve people that are positive and excited for you and keep others at a distance when planning. Good luck.
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Devoted October 2020
Teresa · on October 27, 2019 at 11:15 AM
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I did when we first announced it to everyone. My FH was excited but not into talking about it. The FMIL & FFIL were excited and then it all fizzled out. Now that we are just under a year the FH and his parents are back at it with me. I don't feel like I am bothering the FH when I talk about the guest list, or any other planning things.
FFIL was talking about it nonstop when we spent the weekend with them. My parents are excited and well my bestie/MOH is so excited her man keeps telling her that she should be the one getting married LOL.
Hopefully this will happen with you are well. Just breathe and remember that your vision is what you want. Also, remember to take days when you don't talk about it. You might find that FH is just as stressed as you are and hearing about the details, wants, not wants, and your stress might be adding to his.
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Cher Horowitz · on October 28, 2019 at 12:50 PM
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I can see why you're hurt. I'm sure people will become more excited as the date gets closer!
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Tammy · on October 28, 2019 at 1:10 PM
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This is the first marriage for me but my FH has been married before. Since he comes from a very small family, mainly in Puerto Rico, I'm afraid he won't have a good turnout on his side. He has a lot of friends here who would be supportive, but those who he would really like to see are often disappointing when it comes to special events and/or holiday gatherings. They always have been, even before we met. I have a HUGE family but they're not great at showing up for events either (I'm guilty of that too).

This is why I'm seriously considering having a private ceremony with just me and him and maybe a few others. That way I won't feel disappointed if the masses didn't appear!
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Kayla · on October 28, 2019 at 4:23 PM
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Definitely don't give up! I'm getting married next November as well, and the people around me are just now starting to get excited about it- mom included. When I was trying to figure out all the big stuff it really was just on me. My FH works 70+ hours a week too, so I feel your pain there. Unfortunately, no one is excited as you will be. Keep your vision, there's no need to compromise on what you want. If you need someone to talk to our bounce ideas off of, you can message me.
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