No one coming to wedding.

Oh Sapphire Point is lovely. We wanted to do our engagement pics there since he proposed in Breckenridge on the Blue River but they were closing I-70 that week due to snow!

That is also a pretty difficult and expensive place to get to once you fly into Denver...even in September. People will absolutely need to rent a car and even in the Fall hotels in Breckenridge and surrounding areas will be pricey.

Agree with others, elope there (so beautiful)! and have a reception back home

So my FH and I are having a destination wedding (in 18 days). We gave everyone a one year notice with save the dates. Before we even purchased our save the dates or even contacted potential venues, we checked with our VIPs to make sure they would be able to make the trip. It was important to us that they could make it. However, if getting married in Colorado outweighs certain people attending your wedding, please go get married in Colorado! At the end of the day it is you and your FH's wedding!

My FH and I were originally planning on eloping but both sides of parents wanted to be there. I think taking everyone else feelings into consideration is the hard part.

@AyEmVee that's a good idea. An open house.

I'm not sure why my parents are backing out. My mom is going to her family reunion in June and thats in Las Vegas. There might be a bigger issue there. Shes not really involved with anything regarding my wedding. She doesn't even talk about it.

Southwest always has deals from Texas to Colorado. I also booked a block a rooms for around $80/night. I just thought it would be nice to have a big family vacation with our wedding.

When my FH and I first announced we were engaged his aunt goes... "I sure hope your not planning a DW those are SO selfish and it really puts a burden on the family"

Sounds like maybe you should have spoken with your family before doing that.

She did speak with her family and they said they were supportive of the DW @FMP. Sounds like maybe you should have read the comments.

ETA: OP, you could have a dinner at a restaurant with parents and other VIPs and it would be cheaper than a full blown reception.

@HelenaHandbasket I know that, I'm having a DW as well. They could fly in for the wedding and out the next day - it's Texas to Colorado for crying out loud. One night at a hotel is not asking a lot. If they cared, they would make an effort. Something is fishy about this.

"And I'm sorry, but getting from Texas to Colorado is not expensive. I just saw tickets the other day for $70 round trip. Plus, they have 6 months to save. I feel like there's a deeper issue here for why people are backing out, especially your parents."

You have no idea what anyone else's financial obligations are. To you, it's just $70. To others, that's a lot of money, especially coupled with hotel rooms, meals, and time off work. Let's not judge just because someone can't afford to go to a DW. It's their money. They get to spend it as they see fit.

Ashley, I had a destination wedding in the mountains. I checked with my VIPs and had they not been able to make it, I would have called it off and had it some place else to insure the people I wanted there more than anyone else (my parents and my sister) would be able to make it.

@ElizabethK Oh, please, she gave them a year's notice and I'm sure she's mentioned wanting a mountain wedding to her parents before. I would understand the issue if they were required to pay cash, but nearly everyone has a credit card and that doesn't require ANY money up front. People that want to do something make a way, especially for their child.

FMG don't speak for others. My father drove a cab when I was growing up. We lived on tips. A year's notice would have made no difference because this trip would have been the difference between eating and paying rent or going to a wedding, a luxury. The poster is having a first world problem, not a freaking crisis. She could easily (a) get married in the mountains without her parents, (b) get married in Texas so her parents can attend and honeymoon in the mountains, or (c) elope in the mountains and have a reception back home. She has choices. Her parents may not. It's ridiculous, short-sighted, and insulting to assume that people who can't afford to fly to a destination location, paying for airline tickets, meals, hotel rooms, and time off work just don't care.

Elope and when you get back home have a small reception.

I have to ask...how is you and FHs relationship? Are people generally supportive? Cost aside, I would not be willing to go to a DW for a couple that I don't think should be getting married, no matter how much I love my friend or family member. That aside, you can always pay for everyone to travel. As you said, it's not that expensive... Eloping is great too. Do what makes you and FH happy.

This post is giving me anxiety. I'm having a DW and just shouldn't have read this. Is there a piece of info that was left out? Like a family issue or something? I know everybody has different types of relationships with their family but I could not imagine my parents not coming to my WEDDING..

Our wedding is fast approaching and there are many similarities here. I'm from Florida, he's from Ohio, so we decided to meet in the middle and get married in North Carolina. The initial influx of support and commitment was bountiful; however, as we dwindle down the days, many have backed out (I think we had 3 cancellations today) or flat out never responded. We invited about 115 and today we have a final count of 53. I wanted a small ceremony and not a big event, but I can relate, it still hurts when those that have committed back out. We've spent a lot of money on this wedding and I too have second guessed our choice. At the end of the day, it's about the two of you and the life you're about to embark on. I think it's still going to be the most amazing day, those that can make it, will, and for those that can't, there will be pictures and videos! Good luck in your decision, it's quite difficult weighing and balancing it.

Even if you are being selfish, it is YOUR wedding. You do it how and where and when you want to -- if people want to be there, they will. But also, don't hold it against people if they don't come. It's more about them and less about you.

I'm going through this same thing right now with my wedding, and it helps knowing I'm not alone. We live in Alaska and have lived here for years, so we wanted to get married here -- this is where our life is. Unfortunately, none of our family lives here, so for all of them this is a destination wedding. Even with over a year and half notice, most of our family members will not be here. But many close friends will make it, and for every family member that says they can't come, I find a local friend that would love to be there and invite them. It's going to a great day because it is about me and my future husband.

I know it hurts when family doesn't make your wedding day a priority -- be angry/upset for a day, and then let it go. It's not worth holding onto the anger and frustration.

Do what's best for YOU guys. You'll learn with planning a wedding, you won't be able to please everyone. Or if you want to spend minimum, do something small! Get married on the beach or a park or have a destination wedding - get married on a cruise! Do something you love!