No one attending my wedding…need help?!

Well 1st of all I think that you should have your wedding ,and just take down the number of the people that are not attending.I also think for them not to attend means that they don't like you, and that's sad, "That's the reason for using covid as an excuse" But smile stay confident keep faith you know. Because Jesus went through all he went through for us and he did not a single thing. so that's why you're being treated this way you did nothing to deserve this. like Jesus did nothing so go on with your wedding and never mind the people that aren't coming you are the main attraction you are getting married Don't worry because it's always a hater

I echo looking into a restaurant. We're getting married with 25ish people in attendance at a beautiful restaurant and only paying about 2k for food, alcohol, tax, gratuity and venue fees. If you don't lose a lot of money by cancelling your venue, you will be able to have a beautiful wedding elsewhere. ❤️

O sweetie I am so sorry to hear that the people you love and want to be there are not choosing to show for the most important day of your life. I say try and do something a bit more low key if it means not losing out on a lot of money already spent.

I am so sorry your family is doing that to you, you do not deserve that. In terms of what to do, I would keep your date. Get married with the ones who chose to come to celebrate you. If eloping isn't your vision, then I would not risk choosing that as an option. Cancelling is difficult because you'd have to make sure all of vendors are available another day, unless you forfeit your deposit (i looked into rescheduling mine too, it was too much of a hassle). best of luck to you!

That’s so sad do you have coworkers or church members maybe neighbors to invite to replace those not attending

Our wedding is scheduled for September 25 and we are in a similar boat. We are inviting 122 people and hoping for 50 people, we had people afraid to travel, COVID, and so many excuses. We had a micro wedding and we've postpone 4 times already so we just want to get this over with and move on with our lives.

Dear Jennifer,

I feel your pain! I come from a large family and most of my family is also not coming to my wedding because I am a white American girl and I'm marrying a black African man. His family, still being in Africa, also won't be able to come to our wedding. I don't have as many friends as you said you invited but I also have been hurt by my friends' responses. Two couples for whom I traveled to Ohio to be a bridesmaid in their weddings have both said that they can't come. One after another, my fiance's friends have let him down too. Even people who had agreed to be in our bridal party have decided that they can't come after all for one reason or another.

In addition to the above stress, we've been forced to change our wedding date two times. Since my fiance is from Africa we had to work with a lawyer to get some legal documents before we could get a marriage license. In January the lawyer had told us that the process would take 60 days. We planned our wedding for the end of April, thinking that would be enough time. Three weeks before the wedding the lawyer let us know that he hadn't started the process. He told us that he would have everything done by June 15. So we rescheduled the wedding for August 7. By the middle of June the lawyer let us know that he didn't start the process until June 14 and it would take another 60 days to process everything. So August 7 wouldn't work either. So we had to reschedule again.

All this is to say, you're not alone in the struggles. Don't give up! Family and friends are gonna let us down because that's part of life. It hurts when they let us down but the hurt can't stop love and happiness. So don't give up. True love is worth everything!

Screw them and don't let them make you feel anything but happiness about your wedding day! Some have said to book a nice restaurant and that's a fantastic idea. More intimate and cost effective. Don't cancel your whole wedding, you'll regret it.

Check if maybe you have a list of people you didn’t invite in the first place due to budget issues and invite them🤷🏻‍♀️

I’m so sorry to hear this. Though they should not tell a FIB to why they’re aren’t attending . Can you change the date and have very small ceremony to celebrate your union and at a later date have the big wedding? With this new Covid-19 variant as much as o would love to be at a family member’s wedding I’d be hesitant. I know this is not what you want to hear . This Covid has made EVERY BRIDES DREAM DAY a NIGHTMARE! Please try and speak with your venue. It’s about you and your future husband. Praying 🙏🏽 for the best . And for your family… God will make who needs to be there … there…

I’m so sorry to hear this! Maybe rescheduling for next year and you could see about making the wedding a little smaller and more intimate. My partner and I definitely have the issue of not having family willing or able to support us on such an important day

Date twins!!!! We are having the same problem we invited 170 and have gotten 50 back….I know things are up in the air right now for most due to the delta variant but we are providing an online viewing option as well. I’m a firm believer the people that choose to come will most def make it a blast regardless of the number

I hope you aren't having those people in your life anymore. The ones who said you aren't a priority or were just rude about not wanting to come. If it were me I would cancel if it makes sense financially and rework the wedding to be smaller.

I would scale back and have your wedding. It is about the 2 of you and shouldn't let others stress you over attending. My wedding is in 2022 and my guess list is 50ppl. If they can all make it great and if not, it saves me a lot of money. It's your 1 day and and people should not be the focus. My fiancé told me if I plan my wedding based on other people instead of the 2 of us, he is cancelling and we are eloping. It is your day, people in life will always disappoint you, but choose your reaction. Good luck with everything.

I’m so sorry this is happening. I’m having my reception on the same date and haven’t gotten as rude of responses, but have definitely had a number of people decline who I was certain would attend. Also still waiting on a ton of responses.


Are you able to get your money back from the venue? If so, I would and book a smaller venue. If not, I second the suggestion of upgrading food and beverage for those who are coming. I agree with others who said not to elope or reschedule. Especially with covid, we have NO idea what 2022 or even later will look like. No sense in putting your life on hold. A smaller wedding (with your core group of people) will still be absolutely beautiful!!

This wedding is for you and your fiancé! Don’t cancel for people who might not be bothered in another year! If they can’t put in the effort for you then you’re better off without them! Xx

It's your day! The guests being there is not going to change your love for your husband, or the wedding you envisioned. I am getting married on October 21, 2021, and my mom is so worried about people canceling. I paid for an all-inclusive wedding, so I too would be out of money. I tell my mom that as long as my soon-to-be husband is there, kids and her I don't care who shows up. I wish you the best!!!

All I can say is what I would do, and if it was reaching that point, I'd elope. There are very romantic and special ways you can do this and put that money towards a honeymoon. I'm so sorry this is happening. Family can really suck.

I am sorry at least you know who your true friends are, I am having the oppiste problem I wanted a very small wedding and we are having over 100 people are indeed coming, if you can cancel the venue I would get married and then go out to dinner so you save money and can still celebrate with your loved ones

I am having a similar issue. My wedding is October 4,2021 and we have over 100 guests on the list. I have 22 RSVP on my list rigjt now and it’s mostly my family. My fiancé’s immediate family prob can’t even come because the us Mexico border is still closed so only his sister and brother (not there families) nor my fiancé’s dad can come because they don’t have dual citizenship. One of my fiancé’s aunts decided to book a trip to Cabo a few days after our wedding so all of my fiancé’s cousins are not going to be able to come because now they have to save up vacation for that trip… mind u this aunt knew about this wedding in 10/4/2021 and we even sent save the dates out months before so ppl could come. I am devastes and heartbroken as well because I feel like not much of my fiancé’s family supports us or even cares enough to show up to the wedding. I feel like I am wasting money too. It definetly sucks and I have had to tell some of my cousins truly how I feel