No love letter on wedding day?

You can still write a letter to him if you wanted to! I'd leave it up to him as to whether he writes a letter to you, but you can certainly still write one for him if it was something you felt strongly about.


If he says he hates writing/doesn't know what to write/etc, you could suggest that he writes something simple, even just along the lines of, "Happy wedding day! Looking forward to celebrating." Or, you could suggest a topic ("Write your favorite 3 things about our relationship" or "Tell me your favorite date we went on") and ask him to write that down in a short letter to you. If he's that strongly against writing it though, I wouldn't push the issue.

We wrote letters and read them before our first look. I absolutely loved it. It was so touching to read the letter from my wife, and I of course cried. The best part was we had our letter readings filmed by our videographers. I love rewatching that moment because my wife never cries, and she sure did when she read my letter 🤗.

My FH hates writing letters too but he and I are going through with it because we feel it will help us through the nervous part of the getting ready and remind us in very specific ways that the chaos and stress is all going to be worth it and over before we know it.

Plus... let's be 100% who doesn't want a little bit of extra mushiness on their big day?!?

I think it would be cute to write

We didn't write any letters or anything. We wrote our own vows though. And we often write long-winded cheesy messages in birthday/anniversary/valentine's day cards.

A short note is a sweet gesture but it feels very private between the two of you.

It is touching and romantic if you want to do it. And a miserable chore that takes away something from the day if someone is pushing you to do it, and you don't want to do it. It's his wedding day, too. Enough, you have to do this, and you have to do that.

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I agree with this. Writing comes easily to some and is torture for others. I would really listen and HEAR him when he says he doesn't want to do this. I am sure he shows you he loves you in other ways.

What if you each recorded a message for one another? He may be more comfortable with spoken words.

We are planning on writing notes to each other, but mainly because we didn't want our vows to be super mushy and cheesy in front of other people. I think it is a sweet gesture, but if he is uncomfortable doing it then it might not be worth it to push him to do it.

Perfect, thanks everyone! I think we will do a short and sweet love note rather than letter lll