No kids wedding - how to word it?

You don’t, you simply address the invitation to the parents..

You address invitations/STDs to only those invited. Mr. and Mrs. James Jones. Don't include and Family or address the invitations/STDs to The Jones Family. Set up your online RSVP so that no one can RSVP other than those listed. If you are using paper RSVPs, include a line similar to "We have reserved ___ seats in your honor. You then fill in the blank with the number of guests on the invite.

Finally, you could use gracious language on your web site to explain that the event is child free. Spread the child free message my mouth among friends and family too.

Also, don't put a message about how you are having a kid free wedding so parents can "relax" or "have a date night". If I can have a date night, it's not going to be to go to a wedding. It's 100% fine to not invite kids, just don't make up some phony reason why you're doing it. You also don't have to tell parents WHY you chose it, they will try to make up reasons why their kid can still come "They can sit on my lap" "I'll pay for them". Do like above and list ONLY parent names on the invitations and let them know how many seats you have reserved. If they give you push back, stand firm.

My cousin did as "Going to the chapel" suggested. Respectful inform guests that children are not allowed, due to the circumstances you mentioned. She DID have to include this, as many guests in our family tend to assume that it is okay to bring children, if it is not specifically stated. Trust me. Your guests will understand. 😊

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I disagree with giving the reasons. If you say it's because of "space", then they can say, "Well, Aunt Beth can't come, so little Johnny can take her spot" or "Susie can sit on my lap and not take a seat".

I've been invited to adults only weddings and they have said "This will be an adults only event" or something similar on the invite.

You don’t need to give people a reason like saying space issues or anything. For me, we’re not having kids either and we just made sure to address the invites only to the parents and we put under FAQs on our website “are children invited?” and then “our ceremony and reception will be for adults only.” If people ask why then you can explain to them!

View Quoted Comment I see this response a lot: “let them know how many seats you have reserved”. What exactly does that mean? Do you put “We have reserved 2 seats for you” and actually write out “two” for them? What if I invite two adults and for some reason only one can attend, and I have already written in “reserved 2 seats”? I am not even close to the invitation phase so haven’t quite seen the options for how this works. I am planning on an adults only wedding too so thinking ahead. Thanks!

View Quoted Comment Choose an RSVP card that says “we have reserved x seats for you” fill in the x. If someone RSVPs for one adult and one kid call them and let them know that the invite was only for those it was addressed to and you won’t be able to accomodate child.

I addressed the STDs and invites to Mr and Mrs specifically. For people I knew would be hard-headed I even tied nice gold twine around the invite with a tag that specifically said their names and not the children's. (it actually came out really pretty)

I also made sure to casually mention it to people in conversation like "oh yeah since kids aren't invited to the wedding we don't have to worry about etc..." or "are you guys looking forward to a hotel night just the two of you?" Even the people who didn't pick up on the way the invites were addressed eventually figured it out.

Just put please we ask that any kids not to attend

View Quoted Comment Ok that makes sense. Thanks!

View Quoted Comment The old joke is, "You can build a foyer with a crystal chandelier on the front of you outhouse, if you want to. You can do it, but it doesn't belong there." Saying who is NOT invited to a wedding, should not be on an invitation. Only who is invited. . I know some people do it, but, there are more polite mays to get the information across.

*polite ways*

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I wasn't speaking to ettiquette really, just saying what I had experienced in the adult weddings I had attended! To each their own.

I just addressed mine to "Mr. & Mrs ___" and if they select 3 entrees, then I will make a phone call and politely tell them that it is adults only. I'm also hoping that if people have questions that they will call someone to ask. I was going to put it on my wedding website but everyone on here says it's rude, so I haven't yet. I might do it anyways though just in case, don't want any confusion!

View Quoted Comment You can definitely put it on your website! It just doesn’t belong on the invitations. On the website just write something like “Adult only ceremony and reception” or include it in your FAQs if you’re having them.

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Oooh okay. Perfect then! I just don't know how far my family will read into the invites with just their names on them and just assume their kids are coming, thank you!

Yeah I would put the number of guests invited on the rsvp card before you send them out. And address it only to the parents / adults you wish to invite. If they mention it, then you can explain that the venue or ambiance isn’t really kid friendly or they you want them to have an adult night out to celebrate with you.

When in doubt, particularly for people traveling, it does mot hurt to call or text, that you are getting excited about the day, and hope they will be coming. And mention, hope arranging child care was easy.