No kids under 10

Our wedding and reception will be 18+ only. I would say 21+, but FH's youngest brother will only be 19 at the time of our wedding. That will exclude nieces, nephews, and cousins but idgaf. I don't believe weddings are a place for children. No sense in wasting money hosting a child that doesn't want to be there. If no kids stops some people from attending, that's also quite alright with me.

We're also having a 'no children with the exception of family & bridal party.' We do want all family to attend & with so many family members traveling from OOT we don't want anyone left out! Mostly its just friends in the area with kids who will not be able to bring their children. The exception is always newborns. You just CAN'T ask a new mother to leave their nursing child for so long.

I also wanted to do 10 and under because my youngest sister who is the flower girl will be ten. Im having my wedding at an ancient sculpture museum and i dont want to take the risk of having a bunch of kids running around. It should be a worry free happy day and if you want to do 10 and under its your wedding so go right ahead! Dont stress abiut everyone elses opinions!

OP how old is your sisters baby going to be at the time of the wedding? If your sister is still nursing the baby you need to let her bring the baby, or expect your sister to not attend your wedding and potentially damage your relationship. You don't separate nursing babies and mothers.

I'm in the no kids camp. I think it's completely your choice honestly. And if people don't want to split up their kids (I'd be included in the split family) then they can also just as easily choose not to bring any kids. Personally I am doing no kids at all, but I can understand the rationale behind not wanting littler kids there.

"@Nancy is not wrong, you are annakay511. I have heard this twice. That why I posted it. No kids means No Kids."

Why is Nancy referring to herself in third person?

Natalie, we had three kids under the age of 2. Ceremony was just fine with zero interruptions.

I think you should make it 18 and up. For the same reasons everyone else said about splitting up families. Our just stick to certain social circles. We are only inviting immediate family kids (which will only be like 9 of them). We aren't inviting kids of friends and kids of coworkers do to space of our venue. I would have made an exception for a newborn though.

You cannot split up families. It is beyond rude. It is potentially relationship ending.

You can do the following: invite all the kids.

Invite none of the kids.

Invite in circles. i.e. Only wedding party; only close family, etc

You can invite under a certain explanable age, i.e 18, 19, or 21.

You cannot force parents to choose to say to their children, "well Timmy is invited but Jenny isn't because of an 18 month difference, them's the breaks".

You cannot tell parents to get a sitter or that they deserve "a night off". They're fucking parents, they don't get nights off. They get a couple of hours where they don't have something covered in bodily fluids not hanging off them, asking the same questions over and over again. As soon as they are home, boom! Parents.

We are not having kids at our wedding. People manage to go to work, etc and find a sitter, they can make it one night. If they have to decline, so be it. I go to everyone else's kid friendly parties, they can respect our wishes to have a kid free wedding. I say you're fine with wanting this. I do agree the age cut off might be odd but you also know if your guests have families where that would be an issue.

Natalie - I'm a teacher so I can't imagine my wedding without children there.

And some of my favorite memories from my childhood are from weddings I attended.

It's really up to the couple if they want children or not at their wedding, but I do agree 10 is a random age. Allow all kids or no kids or related kids or 18 & up, doesn't matter , but always allow newborns and let the mom decide if she wants to bring the baby or not

It's hard because it's a random. arbitrary age.

Invite the kids you want, invite infants. Don't invite the rest.

You can put the limit at any point. If the parents aren't happy about leaving only one child home, then they can make the decision to leave both at home.

As for the newborn, it would be precious to have your newborn niece or relative at your wedding. However, you're also risking the chance of having crying in some of your most memorable moments. You can say no newborns if that's what you want to do. I've been at a wedding where the father of the new born went to the ceremony and the mother went to the reception. It's their responsibility to find a way to care for their child.

Nancy is wrong. Bridal party kids are always invited.

But limiting kids based on age is always problematic. Limit kids based on your relationship with them.

@OGA-but it's not rude to them because no one has ever said anything...

My family has been hosting weddings as family affairs since as long as anyone can remember. There have been no disaster stories-- many parents are actually responsible adults and know how to parent.

@mrs coakley I'm referring to the OP's tone. She has chosen to not have kids, including newborns, and OP's sibling is unhappy about it. She needs to deal and stop whining about being "the bad guy", IMO.

10 months old is not a newborn

Cutting it off at ten makes no sense. If you want no kids just say it.

10 is a random age. We did 16. But you can't say newborns cant come. They really aren't separated from their mom...

Yep. Perfectly acceptable to not invite a ten month old. A nursing newborn, not so much.

We are only having the children in the bridal party and my 1 other nephew who turns 18 the next day who is getting mailed a separate invite. 10 is a strange age, is there a reason you picked that age?