No kids under 10

Yes, you're being unreasonable. As others have pointed out, it's rude to split up families. It's also kind of strange to not want your own niece or nephew at your wedding! i can understand not wanting 40 kids at the wedding, but your baby niece/ nephew? You are being very childish.

A child free wedding is your choice. I assume there will be no flower girls or ring bearers. If not, be prepared for, "How come the flower girl and ring bearer are here?"

Arghh I'm in the same boat, does anyone have good eloquent language that can go on our wedding website? I think your being reasonable but just keep in mind a new baby is sort of attached to mom for the first few months so that can be tough. They may not realize it not but the break from their baby to attend your wedding may be very welcomed!

I'm seeing all the other posts, 10 is a rather arbitrary number. I agree with that because then what if a family has a 6 year old and then an 11 year old. They are expected to leave one child behind. We are not having children there other than our own and we are also getting some comments. My response is, they are my children get over it lol

How old will the baby be at your wedding? If this is your niece/nephew, I would make the exception.

@FutureMrsR is wrong- I agree you should expect a decline BUT it would not be rude or tacky to still invite her. You will likely start a family war if you didn't invite your sibling.

@Nancy is also wrong. Children of the couple and children in the bridal party are ALWAYS the exception. If guests don't understand that, they are idiots.

@Nancy is not wrong, you are annakay511. I have heard this twice. That why I posted it. No kids means No Kids.

Just don't invite kids, but if your sister has a breastfeeding newborn, you have to make an exception there.

'It's also kind of strange to not want your own niece or nephew at your wedding!'

How will the 10 month old ever forgive him?! Seriously, weddings are adult affairs.

But yes 10 years is an arbitrary cut off. Just do blanket no kid & don't feel guilty about it.

Weddings are definitely not adult affairs for many people. In many cultures/traditions, they are family events. If you don't want kids, that's fine. But they aren't adult affairs as a rule.

@mrsg how is she childish for not wanting kids at her wedding? It's completely her choice. I will not be having children of any age at my wedding, including newborns. However I completely understand if moms have to decline.

IMO they should be. People would have a much better time for it.

Most of our guests were relieved when they found out our wedding was adults only. I'd be a nervous wreck with a ten month old at a wedding, worried about it interrupting the ceremony.

If I were a parent with a ten month old, I mean.

Natalie, it's perfectly fine to have kids. I don't know why you care so much about other people's choices.

I agree with your 10 and under, but new borns should be an exception, for obvious reasons. We had a "no children" wedding and yet people still felt they should bring their kids anyways.

@Natalie If you were a parent with a 10 month old and worried about your child interrupting the ceremony, you could always opt to hire a sitter. Just because children are allowed doesn't mean it's mandatory to bring them. I've never brought my son to a wedding.

@OP - I agree with PP. 10 is a weird cut off age. I'd go with over 18. That way, you can invite couples on one invitation and adult children on another, and not need to worry about splitting families.

@Natalie-I took my 10 month old to a funeral, parents have all kinds of ways of dealing with their kids to keep them quiet. Not your issue. If you don't want kids, that's fine, but some of us cannot imagine a wedding without them.

Natalie, just stop. FFS do what you want, but if other couples choose to invite children that's their prerogative and it's not your concern. Claiming weddings "should be" adults only

is absurd. They "should be" what the couple chooses.

"But they aren't adult affairs as a rule."

Nope. My family has been hosting adult weddings since the late 1960s. Regular ole middle class, northeast U.S. ...