No kids reception

No kids no exceptions? You made plenty of those with your immediate family children.

I think the only exception is if you have children in your bridal party.

15 months old is still extremely young, she could be still breast feeding, and in that case you need to make a HARD exception. You have no right to ask a feeding mother to part from her child for that long especially if she is an OOT guest.

She won't be coming to the wedding so don't be offended.

I'm going through the same thing. Our wedding is kind of a destination wedding in the TX and about 85% of the guest will be coming out of state. Even FH and I are flying there from MN. Most our our guests are from MN and I am thinking it would be easy for adults to leave their kids with a sitter for some hours in a day if the wedding was in MN. But those that are traveling will most likely be in TX for 3 days and would not travel w/o their kid. I just plan to put no kids on the invitation and website and hope for the best. Maybe I'm being too considerate

I'm having a really hard time with this. I don't really mind kids at a wedding, we just have a LOT of small children between our family and friends (almost 30, at least half of whom are under 5) and I got anxious thinking about what to do with them. We didn't explicitly invite kids except for family (most of them are in the wedding as well), but if someone really wants to bring their child I'm personally having a hard time telling them no.

This isn't to say your approach is wrong. You specified no children, and it's easier to have a clear line in the sand. Most people I know who have had adults-only weddings had at least one person complain or give them a hassle, so you're not alone.

@catlady how about "Adult only event" or what would you recommend?

UO- I still think breastfeeding isn't an excuse to "need" to bring a baby. We just saw our friend this weekend who will be attending our wedding out of state. She breast feeds her 10 month old still. She is missing the ceremony because it's his dinner time, then joining us for cocktail hour and the reception. Her parents are coming along and staying with them to watch the baby.

4 Of the 8 immediate family kids are in the bridal party. I never put no kids on the invite. Just assumed they'd know bc it was addressed to parents only. Ive already had ppl asking and said no. And if she brings him thats just not fair to the others. I get it if they cant make it to the wedding bc of this.

As a parent, I never assume my kids are invited unless I'm told they are. But I do understand how hard the childcare situation can be. I'm with catlady on the options she gave for making it clear.

Since we are going to allow kids at our wedding, my only request will be that we know if they're actually bringing them as we plan to have a kids' table to accommodate.

Ashley, you are wrong. Immediate family children is a perfectly reasonable and normal line to draw in terms of kids to invite. They can be invited in circles - they are NOT all or nothing - and immediate family is a definite cut-off. Also, a 15 month old can certainly be left with a sitter. That is not the same as a breastfeeding newborn. If these guests choose not to attend because their child is not an exception, that is fine and is their choice.

OP, you've done nothing wrong.

Are 15 month olds still reliant on breatmilk at that age? I know some still do breast feed, but aren't they eating solid food by then?

Most people aren't going to leave their baby at home if they are coming from out of town.

I'm letting all of my out of Towners bring the kids. I'm hiring a babysitter and setting aside an area at the reception for the babysitter to do her thing.

THANK YOU

I have to disagree with ALC. We have a ton of out of state guests who are leaving their children at home.

Laura, seriously? You don't think you're being unreasonable asking a mother who is breastfeeding to come to your destination wedding with her mother who will sit in the hotel and watch the baby? Because I think you are.

Kennyeh, you never put anything about adult only or no kids on an invitation.

If you don't want kids at your wedding, you don't want kids at your wedding. That also means no kids in the wedding party or else they're invited to the reception. But the bottom line is, we should all lose the "unfair" excuse. These are adults. They should understand that this isn't elementary school where everyone gets a card on Valentine's Day. You invite who you want, including kids.

Im all for no kids at weddings but that baby is very young. It is very difficult to find a babysitter that you trust when they are so young. Especially because they are from out of state and could not get to their young child in an emergency. I think it would be a good idea to make the exception for a baby so young. What is the harm anyway?

It is perfectly acceptable to not allow children of any age at a wedding. 15 months (over 1 year) is completely fine to leave with a sitter. Hell, my cousin who has an 8 month old left her at home for my wedding. If people really want to (and it's okay if they don't) they will find a way.

My two aunts, and another friend are coming from out of state. They wouldn't feel

Comfortable leaving their children with a baby sitter... especially from being out of state. I would not travel out of state for a wedding and leave my 15 month old home... no way.

You're making exceptions though for those in the wedding.

FH and I are considering no children except those in the wedding (2 kids) but not entirely certain yet.

ETA words .

We are doing no kids as it is a NYE evening wedding/party atmosphere. We put it on our wedding website, we also have a small card to include on our invites that says "we have reserved _ in your honor". We made exceptions for kids in the bridal party (who will be leaving after dinner) and my one close friend who's baby will be 6 months old. All of her baby sitters will be at the wedding as well. I wouldn't dare ask her to find a random sitter for her baby because I wouldnt. You can stand firm in your decision not to make further exceptions just be prepared for a decline from that person. I would never want a close friend to miss my wedding because they cant find a sitter.

What about accomoating them by proving child car for the evening? Is that something you could do?

You're allowed to choose who is invited to your wedding, so if you don't want kids there, no big deal but if people can't make it because of that you just have to be understanding and not take anything personally. I actually think it's kinda odd that your friend is insisting they bring their child, that's alot to ask.