No Kids Allowed

Just don't write it on your invitation.

Depending on who you are concerned about, I think word of mouth can be very powerful. If any of your BMs or family members are close to people who you are worried about, it may be a good task for them to talk nicely to those people about it, or spread the word.

@Ring but how? "NO KIDS ALLOWED!" Lol

@Holly We have been spreading the word but someone brought their baby to my shower and someone else asked. I dont want to be rude But it seems we have to write in on the rsvp so its clearer. I thought about talking to the people individually but i thought it would loo worse, like singling them out?

I don't want to say "Adult Reception Only" Because there should not be kids at the ceremony as well. The last few weddings we attended had babies and toddlers babbling and crying and playing so we pretty much heard nothing lol FH says no kids at all and i have to agree based on the size of our families and new babies/toddlers we have.

We are having an adult only ceremony and reception as well. When asked our mothers and BP work in the conversation that it is adult only ceremony and reception. We posted it on our website and will noted on our Save-The-Date cards, response card and invitation.

Maybe if you talk to those people on a regular basis, ask them who is babysitting?! Lol I think the things you are thinking of would all be fine, I think adult only weddings are common and people ::should:: be understanding. Good luck!

We wrote "while children are a joy and a blessing please respect our wishes for an adult only ceremony and reception". Eta: spelling and I realized I left out joy.

Ooh i like that @future

Yea it seems we are being labeled child haters now lol keep in mind most of these people who are so offended have kids who practically live at our house lol

Thank you ladies

My mom made it her mission to spread the word that ours is an adult only wedding.

My FH's boys are going to be our ring bearer, but after the ceremony they are leaving.

Adults only reception here too.

My personal opinion is that it is OK to put "adult only ceremony and reception" on the reception card and/or RSVP card. I really don't know why everyone is against it. Some say just put in on your website, but you don't know for sure people are going to look at your website. I think a lot of the tip-toeing around and counting on word of mouth doesn't always work. Word of mouth especially might not work if you have people from all areas of your life - work, family, friends, etc. Just put it on the reception and/or RSVP card and be done with it!

@Future Mrs.High has the best possible way to write it in polite manner without offending any parents.

Do not write it on your invitation. What you've done so far is fine. If anyone RSVPs their child, call them and kindly explain "sorry for any confusion but" you are having an adult-only wedding.

Yea I just changed all our rsvp to the suggestion @futuremrshigh used. It feels like a huge weight off my shoulders thanks again ladies

What about adult children? I'm getting a lot of flak from various family members who expect their late teen to adult children to be invited, and if we did that our guest list would probably double. I already have a cousin who pronounced her whole family (herself, her kids, her sister, and their parents) wouldn't be able to make it without even asking the date when I said we were trying to keep it small and would respectfully request no children, of any age.

Our wedding website was on our save the date magnets, which were addressed to the adults invited. On the first page of the website we wrote a phrase "Our ceremony and reception have been planned for adult guests 21 and over." The invitations were addressed to adults only and the invitations had belly bands, which also had the names on them. It only affected 2 couples, out of 250 invited. One couple couldn't find a babysitter, even after given 10 months notice. My uncle/aunt were so offended that their kids/centers of their universe, who I've met twice in my life, weren't invited, they didn't even bother to RSVP.

My fiancé and I have decided that we will only invite children if they are in the wedding. The parents can bring all of their children if they have one child in the wedding. We're hoping this works but we are very early in the process so we'll see!

I wouldn't put it on the invite. Website, word of mouth, specific names on the invitation.

We made the age cutoff 21 +. It boils down to dollars.

How about the economy of love has no bounds with our friends and family but the economy of this wedding does haha