No flower girl or ring bearer

Not having A rb or fg will be fine It is your wedding & your decision!

We're not doing it either. The kids who we know are very young and their parents are in the wedding, so it didn't seem fair to ask the mom and dad to get the three kids ready for the ceremony plus themselves.

I don't think you need to have a flower girl or ring bearer for it to feel like a wedding. As long as you and FS get married, that's the most important thing!

Oh, not to worry. It will feel like a wedding...there will be a bride and groom!

My daughter did not have children in her wedding. She wanted to have her little brother (her Dad's son) walk with them down the aisle, but he was not in to it. LOL! He is 6...she is 26. He also has Downs Syndrome, so his interest in the wedding was short.

They did dance, though....

Totally fine! We weren't inviting kids to our wedding, so we didn't have the flower girl or ring bearer either.

I thought about not having them either, but my niece asked if she can be one (she has no shame!) so if I allow her, then her sister will want to be one too.... so now I need to find a ring bearer. It isn't that I didn't want my adorable nieces to be in the wedding, it is just that I asked their mom to be a BM so I thought it would be too much of a strain on their family for all those dresses. Grandma to the rescue, I suppose

We are having an adult only ceremony - translation no blooming ring bearer or flower girl - some may think they're cute however I do not feel they are a necessity to a wedding and I most definitely do not agree with the person who stated that if they are not there its not a wedding. That's very illogical to me.

We are not having a rb or a fg; just decided there was no real need, we still have kids though; 2 are the register attendants (~10 year olds) and my neice (10) and nephew (13) and my FH's neice (14) and nephew (16) make up the wedding party.

No FG or RB here either.... As long as we have a the two of us and witnesses, it will be a wedding.

Most of the weddings we photograph don't have a flower girl or ring bearer. Don't listen to the naysayers. Anyone who thinks the presence of a ring bearer somehow makes it less of a wedding is completely missing the point.

We are not planning on having a ring bearer, but might have a flower girl.

Thanks for all of the comments. I'm glad to see it is not as uncommon as I was thinking.

We arent having a ring bearer or flowergirl either.

Come to think of it, there wasn't one in the last wedding I attended either. No one seemed to notice.

We're not having a RB/FG either. We only have 6 people in our bridal party total, and our ceremony is going to be 15 minutes long, so all the pomp and circumstance just wouldn't seem right. Plus, the only kids around that age are pretty rambunctious, and I'd rather not have the image of my nephew shrieking down the aisle burned into my memory forever.

We have two flower girls only because FS and I both have 8 year old sisters. I think unless there is a kid you really want to involve in the ceremony, don't bother. They are sometimes more hassle than it's worth.

So my situation is that we wanted our neices and nephew to stand up but his sister had an argument with my FH and decided to punish her brother and I by not letting the kids stand up. I am left with no choice as most of the other kids in our life are too young or too old and our neices n nephews would be hurt? Any ideas?

It's your wedding. The only people you need to please are you and your future husband. I have a niece and nephew that are the right ages. If I didn't I think I would skip it too.

I've done quite a few without either! Your day! Your way!!

No flower girl or ring bearer for us and we still walked away married! There were a lot of things we skipped and still wound up married, so don't listen to the haters!