NO first dance....

You know, me & my FH can't dance but we just want to share that intimate moment together. His 1st song he chose was "Whatever You Want" by Tony Toni Tone now, he likes "Forever Mines, by the OJays".

Either song is wonderful, even if we just do the two-step.

It's not require, nor is it necessary; it's truly a personal choice.

We!re not doing one, probably. Neither of us dance well. We'd have more fun if everyone was dancing with us.

It seems as though everyone has an opinion ( and gives it to you) whenever you decide to deviate from what is "traditional." We are doing a first dance, but are not doing a bouquet or a garter toss and we have had lots of people tell us that we just can't do without it. So, do and don't do what you want.

Good to know its not some wedding crime Im committing lol. While I don't mind dancing with everyone else on the dance floor. I don't want everyone to be staring at me and FH wondering why are they dancing like that?!?! Lol I figure all eyes will be on us enough for the ceremony the reception is party time.

I am doing a first dance yes everyone's eyes will be on us but this is one of the things I am most excited about. I will just tune them out. But no there is nothing that says you have to it is your day you do what makes you happy. People will try to get you to do the things they would but it's not their day.

It's your party and you'll dance if you want to ♫

It's your decision

We're aren't doing one as well. Neither my fiancee or I can dance plus we are very shy in front of people.

Up to you

We wont be having one , I really don't like them and FH isn't bothered.

Its your day. Do what makes you guys happy! :-)

It's your day. you can do whatever you want. who cares?!

everyone has certain parts of the day that are more important than others. it's totally fine if you don't see that as something that's important enough to have. everyone is different.

We are not doing a first dance either...I'd be too nervous with all those people watching me!

It definitely like everyone else says too- it YOUR day! I think everyone should pick and choose what they want for their special day. Otherwise- it wouldn't be special... it would be cookie-cutter!

Planing a gay wedding, lots of traditions don't fit for us, and guess what, we get to chose what we want to do... We are having a first dance, why, cuz we want one...

You don't want one? Then don't have one. It's your wedding, your rules,

I'm not a huge fan of them... but my mom really feels strongly that we should have one, so we've come up with a compromise. We will dance for about 30 seconds and then the rest of our close family will join us (ie: mom and dad, sister and brother in law, FMIL and FFIL) and making it more of a family dance. This gives us the chance to get pictures taken and then having others join us will hopefully take some of the pressure off.

We are not doing one, also not doing mother/son, father/daughter dances! Neither of us wants any of the "organized" dancing, we just want people to have fun. I also do not like being in front of large crowds, hence the reason for a very small ceremony, so I am certainly not getting up and dancing while 200 sets of eyes stare at me

Not having a 1st dance happens more often now, but still is relatively rare in my experience. I am up to 705 or so weddings & probably 20 didn't have one.

Saying that, what matters is what you want- what makes you comfortable. If it isn't your thing, skip it! What matters is that you are enjoying your day, not what other people think you should do.

You may consider alternatives though. If you & Mr Lewis start off with a slow song, dance for a few seconds, then have the DJ transition into a fun fast song, inviting everyone up, that will break the ice & start the dancing off with a bang.

I had one couple start with a slow song a month ago, and maybe 30-40 seconds in I mixed in Rob Base and everyone loved it and danced all night. They had a moment for pix, for family and friends to say "ah", and then never looked back. Super fun.

As an event, a 1st dance lets the guests know that dancing is starting. You can get that effect tho from a Father-Daughter or Mother-Son dance instead. HF & GL!

First I agree...it's ur wedding do what makes you happy. I feel like I should mention this. I was so nervous of all those people. watching, but I have to say...being in his arms for the 1st time as bride and groom. was so special I can't even describe it. We had everyone else come up about a minute into the song and it gave us time to be alone. I also have an amazing pic from it. But I really do feel that if you really want or don't want to do something you should follow ur heart and ur opinions not anyone elses

Omg thank you. EVERYONE stares at us like we're crazy when we say we aren't doingg one. WE. DO. NOT. DANCE. No one wants to see that. I want to have EVERYONE come up and do the wobble with us to start off the dancing for the evening. I refuse to stand up there, just me and him, and dance in front of everyone.

My fiancé just DJ'ed a wedding and the couple didn't have a first dance. They were not comfortable & opted against it. I think in today's world so many people are doing there own thing & mixing it up. I don't think there is a right or wrong way. Remember someone will always have an opinion.