No Female Friends for Bridal Party, Shower, etc.

Unfortunately, if you've chosen not to have female friends until now, it's not likely to change before your wedding. If anyone does offer to host a shower, you could ask that it be co-ed so that both you and your FI attend, along with your close friends of either gender.

One bright spot- you can use this forum to help plan your wedding! There are lots of helpful members here.

I am the same way. My family has no interest in planning or trying to plan. If I send my mom or sister's pics then they respond, but otherwise no interest. I have 1 sister who is interested, my MOH..and that's it. Literally EVERYONE else, all other female friends I have, entirely bailed on my bachelorette party for next weekend and so now it has been canceled.
My sister and I are just going to go to Disney together...My JOB has a very valid reason so I don't blame her for having to cancel last minute...but everyone else...it just crushed me. And not only did they cancel, but all of them cancelled and then didn't even say "let me make it up to you/let's do something else" etc...it hurt and I spent solid 2 days upset.
Then I decided...Id rather have 0 than a bunch of fake friends or people who were only interested if it got them something/was convenient for them vs. Celebrating with me..ya know?

Those in your bridal party should be those who are closest to you and mean a lot to you regardless of gender. And while a shower is traditionally a women only event, a lot of couples have had joint showers where they both attend. Need someone to go dress shopping with? Ask your friends, they may say yes but you don't know until you ask.

Oh and feel free to talk to we WW users about any ideas or thoughts you might have. That's what we're here for.

My bridesmaids are really bridespeople with two boys and two girls. I’ve found the guys to be just as willing to help me with wedding stuff as either of the girls and I wouldn’t have it any other way 😊

Same here. I have 1 good female friend. My other brides maid is a girl I don't know that well and I'll have 2 cousins that have agreed even tho we aren't super close. Problem is I need 2 more and I don't know how to make that happen ha. I jokingly said I may hire some (there's a service) but that just seems a little lame. The only thing I think they really plan on doing for me is show up the day of to fill the spots. My one close friend may not at all since she is dealing with some pretty serious stuff. Which I totally understand. I envy girls who have large groups of close friends. I'm just focusing on how happy I am to be marrying my soulmate! It will be a beautiful wedding with all of my family and his 5 million friends there haha.

Thank you everyone. It does make me feel better onowing im not the only one. I do have an all male braidal party, but sadly none of them are really interested in anything but the drinking at the actual wedding itself. I do ency the women woth a solid group of female friends to share this experience woth. Maybe I'll make friends with some women more like me down the line. We do want kids, so maybe i will get to be in a badass mommy group one day. Thats something happy to look forward to, besides getting to spend the rest of my life with my best friend❤

We are all here for you to help with the planning!

Also, you can always have men in your bridal party! I am and he is doing the shower as well. Do you have any guy friends you’d want to be in your bridal party?

I don’t have any female friends either. My bridal party are family members and I’m not having a shower because I live out of state so there will be no time for all of that. Instead of a shower you guys could do a joint bachelorette party

You are not alone!

I only have one close female friend, and she is my MOH. I have a cousin as a bridesmaid, another cousin who is my bridesman, and one of FH's cousins as my junior bridesmaid.

I don't mind the small party though I will never have to worry about the drama that seems more common with bigger bridal parties. And it is just generally less work (and even less money) to have few friends and a small bridal party. There are perks!

I only have 1 female friend, and the rest are male. I have a man of honor and a bridesman (was supposed to have 2 but one can't make it due to the military). My man of honor has been my biggest supporter even though he has no idea what to do. I planned the bachelorette party and told everyone what to do. I did have a family member throw my bridal shower. It can be tough to feel like you're missing out on female friendships but just be honest with your men. If they're close friends with you, they should be there for you no matter what gender they are. I always feel more open with my guys and I absolutely love them for agreeing to stand beside me on my day because they've been the ones to stand beside me through all the stuff I've been through. Focus on the good you get from your guys.

Girls aren't that fun and can be rather crazy if you read all the posts on here! And no one cares that much about your wedding but you, girls or boys! I would find a friend or family member to vent to for your sanity but really the planning is all you

I have 2 female friends, my bestie and her sister. They have lives and kids and husbands, so I don't expect them to do anything but buy a dress and show up for wedding weekend. They r my MOH and BM. My 9yr old will be a Jr BM. 90% of the conversations I have about planning I have with my FH. The fact that he is so involved is what has made me not miss having a bunch of girlfriends. Every step of our wedding we r doing together and we have had a blast.

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I only have the one close female friend, and leading up to the wedding she had some stuff happening in her life that meant she wasn't super available and in fact ha to leave early the day of the wedding! (totally unavoidable life-and-death situation, literally, but a small part of me was a little sad anyways) It all worked out and we can laugh about it now, but a lot of the pre-wedding stuff never happened. I'm OK with that now.

I am currently going through the exact same thing. I don’t have friends honestly because I’m a full time employee and college student. My mother isn’t involved in any of the planning of the wedding. My mother in law is also a nightmare and I’m planning my wedding by myself. By far the most stressful thing I’ve ever done in my life.

Your FH and you should be the biggest keys in planning the wedding. I have some female friends but they don't want to do wedding talk. They've been there done that and they have their own lives. I'm not getting a shower or any parties or anything like that and that's fine. The wedding is about me and FH not girl time. That's me though.

I didn't have a bridal shower or a bachelorette party because I didn't have anyone who planned them. I survived. I had one friend who offered to throw me a bachelorette but I didn't really want the big wild party or to go to a night club and that's only what she was willing to do, it was more for her benefit than mine. None of these things are necessary and unfortunately if nobody throws them for you than you don't get them.

I feel your distress! Just last night my FH was talking about how like 25 guys were coming to his bach part (all of which he views as good friends) and I have like 4 close girlfriends which live all over the country so I probably won't have a bachelorette party or bridal shower.

The only advice I have is try not to worry about who you don't have (a large group of girlfriends) and be thankful for the people you do have! You FH, you best female friend, your guy friends, etc. Also remember even though your sisters and mom may not be super interested in the wedding because its not their thing, they still love you!

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I am pretty fun and all of my female friends are too. This kind of sexist stereotyping really annoys me.

I have one good female friend and she’s my MOH. I have two Bridesmen. I hated having to be friends with girls growing up because they were so catty. One min they were your best friend and the next you were “out” and they were tormenting you. Then the cycle would repeat and I just could not handle it so, I chose to hang out with guys instead. Everyone in my life has been really accepting of that. We are having a couples shower instead of a bridal shower and inviting a coed group. My FH is not intimidated by my guy friends and some days I think they like him more than me lol It’s nothing to be ashamed of, or saddened about. As long as you have good friends, it doesn’t matter what gender they are. In regards to your bridal shower- I can understand why you’re bummed. Rather than thinking your “good/close” friends should be there, see it as someone throwing a party for you and they are picking who goes- just invite any women invited to the wedding and just be happy that you are getting to have a shower. It’s a few hours long and I’m confident you will still enjoy yourself