No Family No Wedding?

I've never heard that but even if I had, I still would have chosen to have a small wedding with immediate family and 4 friends only. Our small wedding was very personally meaningful (not to mention affordable) and we have no regrets.

My advice to you: learn to shrug off all of the unwanted advice and just do your own thing. Also, keep your wedding planning between yourself and your future spouse as much as possible. The less other people know, the fewer opinions they will share.

View Quoted Comment Agreed! Thank you .

That's absurd. People need to keep their hate to themselves. Not everyone is close to their family and consider friends to be family instead and/or they may be closer to extended family instead. It's no one's place to judge. The size of the guest count is up to the couple, not strangers. The only things required to get married are your fiance, an officiant, a marriage license and 2 legal witnesses. Everything else is optional.


Do what works for you and ignore the naysayers.

View Quoted Comment I hear that! You’re absolutely right.

Eeks! I never heard that, but we had a couple family members tell us we were quite selfish for having an expensive destination wedding... I wanted to reply, “guess what, nobody cares about your sorry self... this day is about us!” 😆 Instead, I replied, “I am sorry you feel that way.” My advice for all - have the exact wedding you want for you, not for others! You won’t regret it 😊🤍

View Quoted Comment Yes I love this! So unapologetic!

People like that are inviting drama and bitterness. Wow. Especially with the way things are now, it might be anger and fear too.

Have the wedding you want

No, I've never heard of such a thing. I'm having a three guest wedding but have been keeping it on the hush so that I don't hear any negative comments

Yeah, that works out well for those of us with toxic families!

What nonsense is this?

I'm not inviting any of my cousins, as I'm not close with any of them. I'm considering not inviting my mom's brother in that his wife has always been cruel to our family and when we were having our wedding pre-Covid they weren't coming anyway. My fiance isn't inviting his cousins either. There's no reason to invite every single person you're related to. Invite the people you actually want there. I'm far closer to many people who aren't blood relatives than to those I would invite out of familial obligation.

Wow I’m sort you are dealing with that. Wedding can bring out some ugly traits in family members. But remember their opinions are not law!

*im sorry you are dealing with that*

I've never heard that and I absolutely refuse to invite all of my and my husbands family to our big wedding. If we don't talk or have a relationship with them they will not be invited lol

I have never heard of that in my life! That's an extremely selfish thing to say.

This has always been a thing. It is as though the wide world resents any true elopement or small private wedding. People feel entitled to be invited. If you do want lots of family and friends at your wedding, do make plans that everone you want will find affordable, in time and money. I get impatient with people who plan something that a lot of people cannot do, and then make them feel awful because they do not come. And when people do not want guests, wonder why so many make such elaborate plans and ask them? Like they are challenging them to prove their love and come. A lot of people are really ambivalent , giving mixed signals , and that is obnoxiousness. The last 3 destination weddings we have been invited to, out of the country, a huge number of people were invited. But when asked, do you really think these family or friends can possibly afford this, each has said, well we really only want a dozen or less, so their saying no means we did not cut them. ( and 2 said, but they will feel so bad not coming that they will send nice gifts. I wish people would decide, and be honest about it. No games on either side.

That’s ridiculous. Before we scaled down to just 35 guests, our original list was 130–and it didn’t include quite a few people from both of our families.
Even with just 35 guests, the costs of everything still added up. It’s your wedding, you decide who gets an invite.

These people sound bitter and like they're projecting

HA! That’s not happening. Some family I haven’t seen in almost ten years or more and my grandma expects me to invite them. Like, no. Why ? Have the people you love and surround yourself with regularly there. People who support you and your upcoming nuptials. It’s your wedding. Why not cut out the trivial.

I’ve never heard of this and I totally don’t agree with it. I come from a HUGE family (my dad had 12 siblings, my mom had 9, and their families multiplied like rabbits). I only talk to less than 10 of them due to their drama. We are inviting the ones I talk to and some close friends.

Lol. Wow. What a remark. I hope you laughed at them when they said it. One of the reason my FH and I planned a destination wedding is because we didn't want to invite a thousand people. We just wanted to celebrate with a small group of people that we love & cared for. Before covid we were planning to have only about 30 people. Now with covid we will be having 20 or so, and if its a matter of finances I hope you told them that you'll welcome their input when they decided to contribute to the cost. Weddings are outrageously price now days. Their remarks were ridiculous, not to mention hurtful.