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FilleNouvelle
Expert April 2018

No Family and Anxious About It

FilleNouvelle, on October 8, 2017 at 3:54 PM

Posted in Etiquette and Advice 24

So to sum this up in the shortest way possible, I have a very difficult relationship with my family. I’ve never really gotten along with my father, have not spoken to my sister in years, and only really keep in close contact with my mother. When we began planning this wedding, I had decided to be...

So to sum this up in the shortest way possible, I have a very difficult relationship with my family. I’ve never really gotten along with my father, have not spoken to my sister in years, and only really keep in close contact with my mother. When we began planning this wedding, I had decided to be the bigger person and not exclude anyone. I told my mom she could invite however many people she wanted to invite. From our entire extended family (14 aunts and uncles, 46 cousins, countless babies), she chose to invite 10 people. Out of those 10, I don’t think any are coming. My father goes back and forth daily on whether or not he will come, and I think it’s entirely possible my only family member there on the day will be my mother.

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  • J
    Just Said Yes September 2018
    Jessica ·
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    I also sit there in jealousy looking at how his family is so supportive of him, yet mine is just so indifferent. Unfortunately, the only answer for that is like everyone else's mentioned; they're your family to so you must view it as that. View this as an opportunity to not replace, but put his family in those empty slots of your life. You may not like everyone, but I know there has to be at least a select few you click well with and appreciate.

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  • Future Mrs M
    Super June 2018
    Future Mrs M ·
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    That is hard.

    I am in a similar situation, but not that large. We have 140 guests invited, only 50 are mine. I do not keep close enough contact with most of my family to invite them all.

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  • Bobbi
    Dedicated September 2018
    Bobbi ·
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    I had a very similar feeling yesterday. We looked at a reception venue and fh said "idk if it's going to be big enough for the amount of people" I then start running the numbers in my head and got so embarrassed. I have a close relationship with my parents, grandparents and most siblings but I don't have many friends due to moving far away. So out of like 50 ppl on "my side" of the guest list, I can count on at most 30 ppl. Now my fh has tons of friends but not much family that he associates with so "his side" of the guest list literally keeps growing and is about 75 and probably all of them will show. So i look at it this way, at the end of the day as long as fh shows up, I'm good! We won't have a "bride side and groom side" just sit wherever!

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  • Megan
    Devoted January 2018
    Megan ·
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    Do you want a big wedding? Right now I'm in about the same boat guest wise and we decided to have a small intimate wedding.

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