No Dance with Father, as he is dying with cancer

I don't have a suggestion for the wedding, but just wanted to tell you that I am sorry that your dad, and you the rest of your family are going through this.

Hugs and more hugs!

You don't have to do the dance. Can you visit your dad between the ceremony and reception?

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Just dropping in to say how sorry I am that you have to be going through this. Is it possible to maybe play his favorite song and dance with fh and maybe have other father and their daughters join? It seems so emotional and I personally will be skipping this dance all together since my father passed 18 years ago and I still get very upset.

ETA: I am sending an infinite amount of hugs your way!!

I'm so very sorry to hear this. Is he too ill to express his thoughts? Maybe your mom can write down anything he would have liked to have said at the wedding....have somebody read it out loud just before you dance with somebody of your choice? (close uncle, brother, etc.). You can dance to a song your dad has picked out to honor what his choice would have been.

Again, I'm sorry you are going through this.

I am so sorry that you are going through this. Is there any chance his facility is close to your ceremony or reception venue? That maybe you as a couple could stop by before or after your ceremony, bring them a flower and share in the joy of the day, even if it's bittersweet.

I wouldn't do a Father daughter, or do something to honor him like that in the wedding, Because I've seen that reserved for people who have passed away. I would maybe include him in the thank you speech/ toast. have someone take a video and send it to your mom to show your dad.

bring them a peice of cake and some pictures before you leave for your honeymoon...

I don't know if any of these ideas actually help, but I'd want them to feel included, and try to share it with them as much as possible. ETA: I'd rather someone else put it together for you than you having to organize it yourself, but I've seen really touching minute or so long videos, where the VIP that can't be at the wedding says a little something to the couple, like a short toast if they were to have been there, done with a special song and pictures of the two of you together, recently and from when you were growing up.

I'm so sorry OP, I lost my grandma to pancreatic cancer a few years ago. As @Nonna said, maybe after the ceremony you could visit them, I can't remember where I saw this (maybe it was a BAM here), this couple went to see the groom's grandmother right after the ceremony, she couldn't get out of bed as well and she was like a mother to the groom...

ETA: I couldn't be at one of my best friend's wedding, so she had her MOH hold her phone and we skyped so I could be a part of it... and my aunt did the same when she got married, because her husband's parents couldn't make it... but that time it was my dad the one who helped with the phone

I don't have any ideas except I'm sorry.

I am so sorry about your father's health. Can you have someone Skype or something of that sort so they can virtually? be there?

Oh hon, I am terribly sorry to hear this.

I would skip the dance altogether, every one will understand.

You wouldn't happen to have any old videos of y'all dancing? That would be cute to play

Sorry about your fathers health.

I'm so sorry you are going through this.

Will you be able to visit with your parents on your wedding morning?

I am so sorry. I would skip the father-daughter dance. You know yourself best, but it might be difficult to get up there with a brother or uncle and do a spotlight dance when this is so fresh. If you do want to still dance to his favorite song, I'd recommend having the DJ dedicate it to him and invite everyone to join you on the dance floor. I did this for my grandmother who passed a few days before our wedding and because it was a group thing, it wasn't sad to do.

I think the suggestions to visit your parents the day of the wedding are fantastic. I hope that's something that can happen.

Face time him in on an I pad and have someone in his family stand in for him.

I would definitely visit him the day of or have the day live streamed for them. I am so sorry you and your family have to go through this. My thoughts are with you in this difficult time.

OP, I'm so very sorry. Is it feasible to go and visit with your dad all dressed up in your wedding gown? I think that would be your best option and create a sweet memory to carry with you always. If not, FaceTime / live stream would be great too. If you have a song that is special to you and your father, you should play it and dedicate it to your him or dance with your FH to it in honor of him.

Sending big hugs. Take it day by day. I lost my dad to pancreatic cancer 7 years ago, and FH just lost his mom to lung cancer. I know we would both give anything to dance with them at our wedding, but FaceTiming would certainly do, too. <3

We are never ready to lose our Dad.

This idea is very emotional, but also very beautiful.

I attended a wedding where the bride was in a similar situation. They projected pictures of the bride and her Dad and played Luther Vandross' "Dance with My Father Again". The bride and groom actually left the room just before the music started as it would have been a complete meltdown for her.

After that, the couple came in and danced to an up-tempo song, and the bridal party encouraged everyone to get up on the dance floor.

Cheryl, I am so so sorry.

My dad too, is on hospice with pancreatic cancer. PC is such a horrible horrible bitch.

I know he will be with you in your heart on your wedding day.

My advice, as someone who's dad is in the same situation, would be to skip the father daughter dance. Right now I can't even hardly hold my tears back when I see things that remind me of my dad. I just think having a song dedicated to him is going to be way too emotional for you.

Prayers for comfort and peace to your dad and your family.

You and your are in my thoughts. Do you have any brothers or other male family who could dance with you? Or maybe show a slide show of pictures during that time of the reception.

I'm so terribly sorry, and this is something we're never ready for. I like the facetime idea!

I so sorry this is happening to you as to my dad went threw having cancer as well maybe you could were his favorite color in a flower to represent him