No children...after save the date is sent.

Did you address the save the dates to the entire family or address the envelope specifically? I'm not positive but that I think that's a key component.

How did you address the STDs? Did you address them to the family, or specific people?

How were your STDs addressed? If they were just addressed to the adults, then you can leave kids out. If you addressed them to "The Smith Family," then that's a different situation.

The adults were addressed on the save the date

If you addressed them to just the adults, then it's fine.

You should be fine. I would honestly bump this in the morning when more folks will be on the forums.

How do I bump ?

Just comment on it and it will pop to the top of the forum.

Ok, thank you. My FH have serval small children in his family I don't want to anyone to get offended .

Rece, no matter what you do, someone will take it the wrong way. Just prepare yourself for that inevitability now. I had folks pissed over the stupidest things. You're not going to please everyone.

Kids were welcome to my wedding. We had an open bar. But I do see your dilemma...wait no I don't.

Romelle, that was unnecessary. Many people don't invite kids to their weddings for many reasons. It's not apples to apples here.

Since your STDs were addressed to adults only, you don't have to incite children.

As with any adult only wedding, expect a few declines because of it.

I agree that if your STDs were addressed to the adults only then you're good.

I do have the same question as Romelle. Are you cutting kids so you can afford to have the open bar? If so, I think that makes total sense and is the right move.

You probably already know this but, just in case, kids don't count toward your open bar headcount. So while your price per person is higher with an open bar, the kids will only be charged for a meal (or likely a significantly cheaper kids meal). At our open bar wedding, kids cost a small fraction of the adult cost.

We had a half-price open bar discount for guests under 21. Open bar was $52.80 for 4 hours for adults (total per adult around $186), and for the 3 teenagers it was $160. Obviously, we didn't invite too many teenagers, at that price; hubby's nephew (a groomsman) and my honorary little brother and sister - all in high school. Kids were around $86 each and there were only 3 (9-12) - hubby's niece (bridesmaid) and the ring bearer and flower girl.

My sister's venue charged the full adult rate ($175), including 5 hours of open bar, for any guest 13 and up and any guest under 13 who wanted one of the adult entrees, which may have been many. She obviously went with 21 and up, except for one of the bridesmaids.

Formal, evening weddings, that last until midnight and may have the main course served at 9:00 PM are not exactly kid friendly. I've been to a few weddings where the music was so loud, we couldn't wait to leave; we'd never subject a child to that.

My family has been hosting primarily adult weddings since my Mom was a kid - the late 1960s.

What everyone else has said...if STDs were addressed to adults only and not, "The Smith Family," or whatever, then definitely you can only invite adults!

(Also, the plural of guest is guests.)

You're good. I rarely see kids beyond the BP kids or couples'. It's not just cost, it's the kind of event you're hosting. Most weddings are no fun for kids. Don't make them go.

So along these lines about inviting children to wedding. Would it be tacky to add "Adult Only Reception" to the bottom of the invites?

As long as you addressed your STD to only adults and not Mr&Mrs ____ & Family you should be fine