No ceremony w bridesmaids

What???? Are you real?

This is what I'm doing, essentially. We're not literally going to get married at City Hall, instead at a fancy hotel, but it will be performed by a magistrate and there will be no guests. We're going to have a bridal party in full formal wear present, then have a traditional reception following. I didn't want a wedding at all but FH thought we should have one... this is how I'm still somewhat getting my way.

I'm pretty sure you can whoever you want there. I mean I wouldn't have a huge bride party maybe two or three of your closest friends. It doesn't sound stupid to me.

Are you expecting them to buy a bridesmaids dress? I'm missing the point of this.

I'm having a big reception. I wanted bridesmaids for the pictures. Was also gonna do like a nice entrance at da reception w them.

I'm with Erin. Bridesmaids aren't props.

Sidenote: Erin, how'd the election work out in the capitol building?

Thanks everyone.

I think if you don't make your bridesmaids buy a dress and just want your favorite ladies by your side at the reception and to help bounce ideas off of during planning then it seems fine. But you also don't need to call them bridesmaids, I guess.

Thanks 8815wedding. That sounds best for me then.

I think it would be fun to have "bridesmaids" and have them wear their own little black dresses (maybe you can buy them matching jewelry as a thank you and to pull them all together).

I'm not a ceremony person. I wanted to have everything a wedding has without the ceremony. I wasn't expecting to make them buy expensive dresses or anything like. Just wanted them to wear whatever dressed they'd like in the wedding colors. At the begining of reception have a nice walk in. It was an idea I had. I've never been part of a wedding or ever planned one. I was just surfing for ideas.

I'm not a ceremony person either. There's nothing wrong with having BMs without the ceremony... they'll still be recognized at the reception. I wouldn't have 10, but a small number is fine. Like Miss to Mrs said, you still need witnesses.

@Miss to Mrs - that was so cute! I can't believe that the first couple said no, though. Heartless. (I'm sure they actually had a good reason, but still, she was so cute!)

I want to do a courthouse marriage but I want to hve an big reception with bridesmaids.. I want them to be part of our union because there all supported our relationship.. I want a feel of a wedding but not with everything.. I want to merge our families but still get a feel of us being one..is that crazy