No Call No Show

I'm not throwing a party for them, it's for US! I could care less if no one but Me and my FH show up. And no I'm not expecting presents

Most of our guests have to travel, so I imagine it will be harder for them to RSVP "yes" if they have no intention of coming. They should already have most of their travel arrangements done by the time they send their RSVP. That being said, @WENDY, I'm throwing a party for everyone, to celebrate our commitment to each other. There's a difference.

You shouldn't expect anything from anyone because some people just suck.

I agree @Karen, our wedding will be a party for everyone to celebrate our marriage. I very much want to please my guests and I want them there because I WANT THEM THERE. I don't care if they give a gift, though cash certainly helps lol. If they don't come, I don't want a gift in place of their presence...I want an explanation because them BEING there is the only gift I could ever ask for.

Not showing up is so fucking rude (unless there was a legitimate excuse), but two wrongs don't make a right.

We had 5 people in FH family NOT show up on our wedding day and they didn't send any gifts OR let us know why they didn't show up. I had one cousin on my side not show up but sent a card with another guest.

We had guests ATTEND and still gave us nothing. We invited 250 - 200 RSVP we had around 10 no shows it will happen and you won't notice or even care at the time.

Gifts are not mandatory some people still give gifts others don't but to say it is right/expected you're in the wrong just like they are in the wrong to RSVP yes and not show for just forgetting.

I send gift but that is because I was raised to, but don't expect everyone to think the same way you do.

I'd say 50-60 percent of my husband's family no showed. luckily we had a set price for catering and it wasn't per head. I would have been pissed if that were the case! We didn't even end up using all of the tables we had originally had set up

Entitled.

^^not cool

@JFP...How come you never have anything nice to say???

I got to say, for a vendor, calling potential clients names is not very smart...

Expecting people to keep their commitments - cool

Expecting gifts as an entitlement - rude.

FMS apparently you missed the people I have given advice to, especially about photography. Even then, not everyone wants to hear the answer. This was not one of those times however

Pezzy, you're absolutely right, but that's what came to mind.

@Pezzy: Jay Farrell Photography rarely displays behavior that most of us would look for in a vendor. I chalk it up to Mouth Foot disease...although I'm sure they'd disagree.

Your a business so you should conduct yourself as a professional...that's just my opinion...and if you gave good advice in the past that's great but your negative behaviour will over look your good sometimes.

You know what? You're right. I stand by the feeling I had when I made the statement, but posting it wasn't the best idea. I stand corrected.

Expecting gifts may be classless but if you don't call or show at an appt and you aren't dead they still charge you. We had plenty of money to pay for our wedding that wasn't the issue. Not even a call afterwards or a card sent, that's classless if you ask me, rude, inconsiderate of people who are you friends/ family. And if you do miss an event like a wedding it would be nice to acknowledge it especially when people are on Facebook how can you forget or not see and even if you miss the all posts before the wedding how could you possibly miss the is now married post, or pics people post not to mention what I posted, and all the congrats from far away people. I think it was pretty ridiculous, I mean even a txt would work, "sry can't make it" 4 freakingg words you can type that even from the damn Icu!

...seriously?

I wouldn't have worded it quite the same, but entitled is a good description. People need to understand something. Sometimes people need to travel, buy clothing, fees themselves when not at the reception etc. and idk about some of you, but there's times when "$20 in a card" is the difference between getting to work, and not having a job.

We don't expect gifts. We only registered bc people inquired. But we know those people won't buy from there. We know how those people are. All we want is to see the friends we hardly see, or OOT family we never see. Their presence, is beyond enough. In this economy, we would be shocked at some who made it.

I'm sorry, but I can't believe I just read this post. Completely wrong mindset. We invited only those we truly want there to witness our marriage and celebrate with us. Majority is family with some close friends who we've known a long time. We only registered at a store because my mother requested we do so for the bridal shower if people wanted to purchase us any gifts. But when it comes down to it, it's not about the gifts or the money. It's about the fact that you and the guy you are so in love with have been joined in marriage and are now husband and wife. Gifts are nice gestures, but however, they are not required by any means. As far as people RSVPing yes but no showing. I would politely talk to them and tell them you wish they could of made it per their RSVP and ask what happened and in the future to let you know or other brides know if something changes out of respect because you had to still pay for their head.

Danielle, Is that for real?!?!?!? That many. That is awful. Was there a terrible storm or flu or something that impacted your wedding day? That just seems so statistically high!!!!!