No Call No Show

Drama.

OK, so no showing is wrong, but so is expecting a gift.

@peezy are you not expecting gifts? I mean maybe I'm wrong but IDC Cuz I know how I do when invited to events

I had 3 people no call no show. one was sick, one got lost, the other I still have no idea.

I guess you will have to wait and see

People shouldn't RSVP yes if they aren't going to come. I have no idea if someone not showing up means they will give you a gift.

A gift is certainly not something that's required even if you do show up so I really don't think people will feel it's required if they don't.

I can barely get people to RSVP to the wedding. I can't imagine that if they no call now show, they are going to have the class to actually send the gift.

I had 12 Effing no call no shows bastards at 100 a head I was pissed there were plenty of other people who would have loved to be there. And only one sent a gift of 50 bucks for two people. People at my wedding were asking why their table felt so empty like i placed them somewhere crazy. I invited 165, I think 125 RSVP Ed and we ended up with 109 I believe

Am I expecting gifts? Of course, its why I registered. Do I expect everyone to buy us a gift? No. Is it required? No. While it may be the right thing to do, a gift is not required, and acting like it matters comes off classless.

I'm not sure I could stop myself from contacting those 12 people and being really nasty.

Yea i would def contact them and give them a piece of my mind.

OK so you expect people to bring gifts whether or not they show up but how do you plan to enforce that? Are you going to call people after the wedding and demand they give you money for their plate? Good luck with that.

No-shows are unfortunately part of planning any event and you just have to hope there won't be too many and eat the cost of any that do happen. Sometimes there ARE legitimate reasons for no-shows - people may get sick, their children may get sick, emergencies happen. It's life. If you are choosing to host an event then you should be able to afford it without relying on anyone else to pay for it.

I agree with you to an extent.

However Your not getting married for the gifts Your getting married because your in love. If your only inviting people for the gift aspect then your getting married for the wrong reason.

Everyone IM inviting is because i want them to be there while i walk down the aisle to my best friend, I dont expect anything from anyone. Maybe were different.

I DO agree with you that they should at least call if they arent coming tho

I would just like them to take me and my new husband to a nice steak dinner...that equals the amount of money I paid for their EMPTY seat.

I think that's a lil over the top to say I'm getting married for the gifts. Cuz that's not the case. Though the ceremony and reception is a lovely time but sitting down with your now husband and reading cards and looking at the gifts that people so nicely gave is rewarding. It ain't about having a wedding that you can or can't afford. A card is a nice gesture to say "sorry couldn't make it but we're thinking of you".

THAT i can agree with.

People not showing up after they've RSVP'd yes is going to happen for one reason or another...it's an unfortunate part of a wedding. Right, wrong, or indifferent this is an aspect that is completely out of your control so why stress about it?? It is what it is.

Oh and gifts being a reward...I thought that you invited people to your wedding because you want them to witness your marriage & because you wanted them to help you celebrate, not because they'll give you something. Gifts should be just that, a gift, not expected. Oh & for the record, we don't expect gifts, nor are we registering. If pressed about it, we're gently asking people to make a donation to the juvenile diabetes research foundation in my niece's name & thus far that has been very well received.

No expectations, no let down :-)

I had 194 invited, 118 RSVP yes, 61 show, and about 50 no shows. Most of the 50 have not said a word to us. I don't expect them to. But I would be lying if my husband and I weren't a little sad when we got less than $500 (one person gave $125) and 3 gifts off of our registry. I'm kind of with you on this one, OP. I even keep checking the mail for "congrats, sorry we couldn't make it" cards. I always make sure to send something if I can't go. Guess I just go above and beyond.

Maybe I'm a bad person, but if I don't go to a wedding, I don't send a card or a gift (although, honestly, it's only been three times and I wasn't that close to any of them). That said, I also RSVP'ed no on each of them. They knew I wasn't coming.

I always thought that if you RSVP either way, you could still send a gift...but maybe I'm wrong. I don't send gifts because I think people are expecting them, I send them because I truly want them to have the gift and use it. I RSVP'd no to a bridal shower last month and when I saw her just last week, I gave her a gift. I guess it could depend on how close you are to the person?