No Bridal Shower....

I'm not planning on having a bridal shower, unless someone suprises me with one im not expecting one, and it won't bother me if no one plans one. If you invite people to a bridal shower and not a wedding it comes off not only rude but like your expecting gifts from people but they are not good enough to be at your wedding IMO it's like gold digging in a way. You don't want to be apart of that or be known as that type of person.

No. Nobody wants to come shower you with gifts to celebrate the event they're not invited to. Or I should say almost nobody. There's always one person on here with too much time on their hands who would be honored to be included in any prewedding events for a wedding they're not invited to because it meant the couple was "thinking of them" Spoiler, they weren't. They just wanted your gift. Anyway, don't do this because they won't show up anyway and you look etiquette challenged. (You shouldn't be throwing your own shower). ETA: how come the people who "don't even care about gifts", and, "could care less about even having a shower" are the ones who always post the most gift grabby ideas ever?

1. You shouldn't be planning or consider planning your own shower.

2. If someone isn't invited to the wedding, they shouldn't be invited to a shower. It says "I want a gift from you but you're not special enough to share our big day"

You never invite folks to a shower that are not invited to the wedding. You never throw your own shower. I can think of worse things than not having a shower.

Okay while I totally agree that those invited to the shower must be invited to the wedding, how are the bridesmaids supposed to know if the bride wants a shower if she doesn't tell them??? They're not mind readers. I'm okay with someone throwing a shower but you have to communicate that to each other some how. How could that be considered rude when they aren't mind readers? How do they know she wants a shower if she doesn't tell them? That's stupid and I don't care if you think it's rude. The bridesmaids can't be mindreaders

Cassidy, they're not supposed to be mindreaders. It's traditional for brides to be thrown showers, either by family, friends, or bridesmaids. It would be rude for the bride to say she wants a shower. If the bridesmaids don't offer, it likely means they can't or don't want to do it for some reason.

@Cassidy, if no one offers to throw one, you just don't have one. Bridal Showers are not required

It sounds like you want to include them in something with good intentions but in the end all it comes across as (from their standpoint) is you just want their gifts. They might see it as "I'm good enough to buy you a gift but not good enough to receive an invite." In this case it's better to do nothing

Ok... looks like you got your answer. Nothing to add.