No Bridal Shower....

People who aren't invited to the wedding should never be invited to pre-wedding events. That's so rude.

You don't invite people to a shower or Bach party if they are not invited to the wedding. You also don't plan your own shower or ask someone to throw you a shower. It's definitely okay to not have a shower. There really isn't a way to include these people if you didn't invite them to your wedding.

You're my date twin.... I have to say it isn't customary to have non-invited folks involved in anyway. Your co-workers may opt to give you a little something or maybe your FIs work may do something. Did you register? Add it to the virtual registry! It was fun. Good luck and keep us posted.

Dont include ppl who are not invited to the wedding to any pre wedding events.

Dont plan your own shower.

Dont worry about not having a shower. Everyone does not have one.

Not really, asking people to a party for you that weren't invited to your wedding is the same as saying they aren't important enough to you to come to your wedding, but you would like a gift and attention from them anyway.

Oh no, nope. If they're not invited to the wedding, they are not invited to the shower. You also do not plan your own shower so... nope

Do not invite people to the shower who are not invited to the wedding. Big faux pas

As others have said, only those invited to the wedding should be invited to the shower. Also, showers are thrown for you, so if you were to have one you wouldn't plan it.

If your co-workers throw you a luncheon or something in spite of not being invited, that's on them but you shouldn't throw your own shower and if someone is going to throw you a shower, you should only invite those who are invited to the wedding. Not having a shower is totally ok though

1. You don't throw your own shower.

2. You never invite people to pre-wedding events that you don't intend to invite to the wedding.

If you really feel bad about it and really want to do something just go out and eat with them and have everyone pay their own stuff. Its not a must to do a shower. At the end of the day its your wedding day that counts. I am getting married in 2 weeks and I doubt I will be having a shower not expecting it and its ok. Im looking foward to the day to say i do.

Dont kill your head over it and you dont have to invite them to anything if you have chosen not to invite them at all. There is a reason. Wedding is expensive. If you still wish to do something if that is in your heart then just do a friends night out some days before and everyone eat and pay their own. Hope this help and best wishes

@Rachel T...I agree

Oh god... Sorry that's so rude... It's like saying "hey you're not special enough to be invited to my wedding, but you can totally come to my shower and give me presents anyway!" Besides, you shouldn't be throwing your own shower either. That's tacky.

There is no breach of etiquette if any group, knowing that they are not invited to the wedding, wants to host a shower. This would include co-workers, church members, neighbors, club members etc.

Other than being available on a certain date and perhaps providing information for the guest list, the shower is no work for you. You would be the guest of honor, not the host. It is improper to ever organize a gift giving event in your own honor.

If no one chooses to host a shower in your honor, you can host your friends at a brunch, lunch or afternoon tea. None of these are gift giving events, so the guest list needn't be limited to wedding guests.

In some areas, it is now considered acceptable for the MOB to host a shower. It need not be elaborate. In fact, it shouldn't be. Showers are meant to be intimate gatherings of the bride's nearest and dearest. Tea, coffee, punch and light refreshments in your Mom's home is ample.

You do nothing. Do not invite those who are not invited to to your wedding to anything else. That is very rude. Also, don't throw your own shower. That comes off as very gift grabby. Someone else has to decide to host it for you in your honor.

Also don't follow the awful advice of Marv & Jynesse Wedding. Other than having a pre wedding celebration with those not on the guest list, you do not make them pay for their own meals.

Do not invite people to a shower who are not invited to the wedding. A few years ago, I had 2 cousins get married withing a month of each other, they are siblings. They are my aunt's step sons. The first wedding had a much bigger budget and guest list so our great aunts were invited to showers and the wedding. The second wedding was a lower budget and tighter guest list. Our great aunts were invited to the shower but not the wedding and my aunt had to explain to them what had happened because she was unaware they weren't invited.

People who are not invited to the wedding shouldn't be invited to the bridal shower anyways. It's usually considered extremely rude and looks like you just want more gifts. If you were not able to include everyone on the wedding guest list I wouldn't worry about it too much. People are usually understanding that weddings cost a lot and there are budget and venue limits. Especially the coworkers.

A way to be included?! "Hey there, we aren't close enough for you to make the cut on my invite list... soooorrrryyyy. But, hey! Wouldn't it be cute if I had a party for myself so you can give me gifts and feel included. Except, ya know, without getting to have a meal and party with me!!"

What??? You DO NOT invite people to a shower who aren't invited to the wedding. R u kidding?!?

So obviously everyone's already said you don't invite people who aren't invited to the wedding to a shower. People will get very offended and likely talk badly about you if you do that. At a bridal shower, usually the bride is showered with gifts in celebration of her special day. Expecting people who aren't invited to give you gifts... just no.