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Jessica
Super July 2017

No bridal party?

Jessica, on April 7, 2017 at 11:42 AM

Posted in Etiquette and Advice 41

Are we the only couple that is not having a bridal party in their wedding?? Every time someone asks me who my BM's are, I tell them my FH and I are choosong not to do a bridal party, they are shocked and look at me like I'm crazy! We have a variety of reasons for not adding one and are a lot less...

Are we the only couple that is not having a bridal party in their wedding?? Every time someone asks me who my BM's are, I tell them my FH and I are choosong not to do a bridal party, they are shocked and look at me like I'm crazy! We have a variety of reasons for not adding one and are a lot less stressed because of it. But wow!! I'm just wondering if if was a good choice in the end. People's reactions should not dictate my choices but they are certainly getting on my nerves. Anyone feeling me?

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  • Chelsea
    VIP June 2017
    Chelsea ·
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    I really wish I wasn't! Lol go for it!!!

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  • FutureMrsHaven
    Devoted September 2018
    FutureMrsHaven ·
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    I'm so glad you posted this! I REALLY don't want a bridal party, it's so nice to see I'm not alone!

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  • jerzgrlnmd
    Expert May 2018
    jerzgrlnmd ·
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    I am not having one either, we decided on that before we were even engaged lol...my best friend was sad that she wouldn't be my MOH but she got over it. It makes things a lot easier and one less thing to worry about.

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  • HappilyEverAfter329
    Super April 2018
    HappilyEverAfter329 ·
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    We have a small bridal party. My MOH his BM and my brother our bridesman… I personally wouldn't want anymore people than that. I have friends who are getting married soon and regret having such large bridal parties. I love the idea that it should be about the two people getting married and kind of focus on that. It's about a lifelong bond between you and your spouse and that's all that should matter

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  • JerseyGirl
    Master May 2017
    JerseyGirl ·
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    We don't have one. Planning has been so stressless! Was so happy with our choices after I heard about a cousin who was in tears the week before her wedding as her entire BP was going to drop out. Too much drama!

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  • S
    Savvy July 2017
    Sarah ·
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    We basically did the same thing, we have one person on either side of us. Just soooo much easier and less stressful Smiley smile

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  • Ann
    VIP November 2017
    Ann ·
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    I've been to a wedding with no bridal party & it was fine in my opinion

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  • A Bride
    Super August 2016
    A Bride ·
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    I wanted a very simple wedding and had no desire for a bridal party, but DH really wanted to have a best man. Since this was the only thing DH asked for and I pretty much had free reign over everything else, I agreed as long as we kept it very minimal. No bachelor or bachelorette parties and the bridal party literally just showed up the day of in their outfits. The extra cost was covering a portion of their attire, a small gift and 2 bouquets and a boutonniere for the best man, groomswoman and my MOH. It would have been cheaper without a bridal party, but I'm glad my DH was happy.

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  • M
    Devoted November 2017
    Melanie ·
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    This is not my first wedding but it is for FH. We aren't having a BP but his brother (would be his choice for BM) is going to officiate for us!

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  • Mrs. B
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    Mrs. B ·
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    We didn't have one, don't regret it at all.

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  • LauraR
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    LauraR ·
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    I initially didn't want a bridal party. FH got upset and said he wanted to have his childhood friends so I decided to just do my sister as MOH. You can imagine my irritation when we started looking at suits and FH said he didn't understand why we needed a bridal party. It's still pretty easy with only one person but I do sort of wish we would have went totally simple and had none.

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  • MisstoMrs
    Devoted June 2017
    MisstoMrs ·
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    FH and I chose not too. Literally everyone's reaction has only made me more sure of our decision. Then everyone will ask but who will sign the marriage certificate...

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  • Jay Farrell
    Jay Farrell ·
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    3 of last year's weddings did that, was fine. Not a bad idea at all!

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  • A
    VIP June 2027
    Aerynne ·
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    LOL We are getting married in 8 days and I am not sure if we have one or not...since we only have like 17 guests, it really isn't a thing, but I am pretty sure FSIL will stand up for us and FH will have a brother up there, but nothing formal, no special clothes, no extra flowers, none of the BS or drama that seem to come with a bridal party. I have gifts for each of them to say thank you, so I suppose we have a MoH and a BM, but that's about as official as we are about it.

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  • 6-1-18
    Expert June 2018
    6-1-18 ·
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    At one of our venue tours, the owner asked how many bridesmaids I was having and I told her none. She was shocked and told me I had to have them. I thought it was more common not to but I guess not. I just don't see the point and as selfish as it sounds I don't want anyone standing up there with me besides FH!

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  • studentloansforlife
    Super September 2017
    studentloansforlife ·
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    We don't have one, except for my dog.

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  • K
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    Kristen ·
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    No bridal party here! Too much drama I've seen with my family and friends' weddings. I see the benefit if you have a great bridal party, but it is also a lot of unnecessary stress

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  • Joleen
    Devoted May 2017
    Joleen ·
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    I'm not having a bridal party Smiley smile for many reasons...but mostly because I knew it would add a lot more unnecessary stress Smiley tongue

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  • Bee
    Master April 2017
    Bee ·
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    I wish I wasn't! We've only had minor drama but I've definitely spent more on their gifts, flowers, and rehearsal dinner than I wanted. I'm team nobridalparty for sure.

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  • Nancy Taussig
    Nancy Taussig ·
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    We had only a Best Man & MOH -- no drama and low expense.

    I've officiated quite a few weddings without wedding parties. Some things to keep in mind if you go that route:

    Some states require witnesses (but it can be anyone present, not someone standing beside you).

    Some brides have passed their bouquets to their moms sitting in the front row.

    Usually the groom or the officiant will hold the rings.

    I have also arranged the bride's train once she was in front of me.

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